Online dating services?

Question

i haven't found the right person in my life, even though i am still young.. i was just wondering if all of those online dating services like matchmaker and eharmony work??? any personal experiences with them??

Answer 1

I met my wife through an online dating site. My personal belief is that online dating is not drastically different than meeting someone at a bar or the grocery store. You are meeting strangers who may or may not be honest with you about who they are.

Regardless of which site you decide to go with, be prepared for people who are going to either flat out lie to you, exaggerate some things about themselves or downplay some of their flaws. Handle it the same way you would if you were meeting a random person while you were out somewhere. If you have an instinct that something isn't right, trust your instincts. You WILL meet people who try to be something that they are not. Don't get discouraged, just move on to the next guy. It's the same thing you go through at a bar, but you are going to have a much larger pool of people to choose from. Very important, be prepared to meet many, many guys who are just looking for sex. (Again, I don't see this as much different than going to a bar!)

One very important thing to do is keep yourself safe. Regardless of how long you talk to each other online or on the phone, when you meet for the first time meet in a public place with plenty of traffic. If possible, bring along a friend and make it a double date. If that is not a possibility, let someone know where you are going. When you get there, touch base with them. If it is going to be an extended first date, schedule a few phone calls and keep them updated on where you are and what you are doing.

Some personal experiences:
The Clinger: Went on a first date, had a decent time but was not overwhelmed. Apparently she had a much better time than I did and called me for close to a year afterwards.
The Imposter: Did not have a photo available but pretty much described herself as Barbie. When I arrived, she was about 5'2", 225lbs, short black hair and nothing like Barbie. I walked away from her front door without going on the date.
The Psycho Stalker: Was best friends with a police officer. I was pulled over every time I drove through his township. Also hacked my AOL account and contacted everyone on my buddy list who appeared to be female telling them that I was playing them.

Those are my three worst cases but the vast majority of people I met were very nice people looking for someone just like you are now. I dated a few of them for short and extended times. I am still in contact with a few of them as friends as well. Good luck with your search, hopefully you will get as lucky as I did with online dating.

Answer 2

I met my boyfriend of 1.5 yrs online and last year I went to the wedding of a couple that met online. That particular couple met in a chatroom and not a dating service so you should definitely try sites that have chat on a subject you're interested in.

Yes, they work for some. I think the success rate is the same as meeting someone out at a party or club...unfortunately. However, it is something you should try. There are a million out there.

Oh....my relationship is still going strong.

Answer 3

To Tell you the truth, Not all dating services are serious nor the persons you may find are the long lasting types. everybody is out for fun and a lay, more than half the info they post is flase, and most sites only leech you for money, Give your credit card no and there is no stopping them,
How ever there is this site called www.plentyoffish.com that doesnt charge and better than the rest I have seen.
Besides since we have just initiated a dilouge already, I think, for starters I am interested in getting to know you too, Im me and lets see if we gel.

Answer 4

You can try yahoo personals, lava life, single friend, match.com, there are so many out there-----it works for some people and not for others, some have horror stories and some have true love stories! Some sites you have to pay for, just do your research and check them out, I find lava life a bit trashy myself---eharmony is kinda cool---good luck! I am still looking for the "one" as well-----lol

Answer 5

For some. But not all. You can meet alot of people on those sites. But it's no different than just going out and meeting people on your own. They can lie even eaiser on those sites. In my opinion, don't mess with em'. Most people that use em' (like I did anyway) are either waaaaaaaaaaay to needy, or are just waaaaaaay to shady. Meeting people on your own is just a better way to get to know someone. On the other side of it, I've had a few friends meet some really cool people on em'. I guess it depends on what you're looking for in someone.

Answer 6

Don't do that:p. Dating services are wrong. You'll probably end up liking some 40 year old bald fat guy with a 6 pack(of beer) at all times. Try real dating service...like asking someone out.

Answer 7

Go for it but be very careful! It's an opportunity to meet a lot of people. But there are a lot of strange ones out there. Just make sure you have your rules and regulations thought out ahead of time. Go with your instincts. If you're not comfortable don't do it. Be honest and straight forward about what you want and have fun.

Answer 8

You should try eharmony. It's free to the point of making contacts. Try it for a bit.

Answer 9

Depends on the gender. If you're a woman you'll get plenty of replies and therefore plenty of chance. If you're a man, you have to have an attractive package, the more attractive the more replies, the less attractive the less replies.

Answer 10

Great point, I'm interested to know more too