My boyfriend was diagnosed with brain tumor 2-3 years ago. He stops taking any medicine and treatment after he thinks he has okay. But, for the past few months, his head feel sick again. It’s just like before, when he was sick. Now, he did not take any medicine because if he did, he easily forgetting many things. Nobody knows about this even his family and friends except me. But, thanks to god, I succeed to persuade him to seeing the doctor. tomorrow i want to accompany him to do check up with the doctor. I just want to know what I should do, should I go with him to the doctor's room or waiting outside. What should i say if the results are bad? How can i tell his mother about his illness? (His family doesn't know about that)
2006-07-27 17:53:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he must stay in ward tomorrow, i'am the one who must tell hies family..that's our promise..
2006-07-27 17:58:29 · update #1
he's not just a friend. his my boyfriend
2006-07-27 19:11:59 · update #2
This could be life threating, tell his mother. I hope he is ok, good luck tomorrow and try to go in the room with him.
2006-07-27 17:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is ths guy your boyfriend or a friend who happens to be male? Are you living with him or do you just see him occasionaly? If you live with him and love him than this is what I would say to you:
He can't stop taking his medication when he thinks he's OK. Doesn't this sound just a tad suicidal to you? You both apprear to be in denial about this because this is clearly a life or death situation and nobody seems to be facing the fact that DEATH will be the result if he doesn't stop with this self-destructive behavior.
Doesn't it sould the least bit strange to you that he refuses to tell his parents? What is wrong with him (besides the turmor)? What is wrong with his relationshipe with his parents? Not wanting to upset them only works up to a point and he's way past that now. I would STRONGLY suggest that you tell him that the time has come to let them know what's going on.
On top of that, something needs to be done about his going off his meds. You have to realize that, even if the turmor is benign, that this could mean a death sentence? TELL HIS DOCTOR! Sure, he could dump you because of this "betrayal" but he's not going to be around much if he dies either.
If you are just a friend then there isn't much you can do about his relationship with his family. This man has some pretty obvious issues with his parents.
If you're interested in keeping your friend alive I would still write a letter to his doctor and tell the doctor what he's doing. This is his life and it's obvious that if you don't do something, no one will. You have to put your friend's life before your relationship with him. Maybe the doctor can hospitalize him or at least talk to him so he knows exactly what the consequences of his actions will be.
There needs to be someone that he knows who can fill the role of an adult. Unfortunately, because you are the only one who knows, it is going to have to be you that acts like one.
2006-07-27 19:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would like to say you both are in my prayers. Talk to him about his feelings, let him know first you would like to be with him in the room, but you will understand if he needs to do this on his own. If there is bad news, just comfort him in any way he will allow. Asking him how he feels is most important. As far as his family, this is something you will have to leave up to him. Does he want to tell them in his own way, does he want you to be with him when he tells them, or would he want you to break the ice and tell them yourself?? This is something you have to leave up to him. His personality, which you know and I don't, would determine these things. Bless his heart, I hope he gets a good report tomorrow.
My best wishes to him, his family and you.
2006-07-27 18:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, even if you bypass in the room is between you and him. If he trusts you a lot that you're the merely one which knows, i ought to assert he ought to probable take exhilaration on your help, even if he protests a touch before each and every thing. Secondly, I easily do not imagine there is something you could say to everyone if the records is undesirable. merely hug him, carry his hand, and be there for him. in case you choose to assert something, you'll recognize what that is on the time. Thirdly, i'm sorry that it falls to you to inform his relations. i imagine sparkling, easy, and to the point is the appropriate. do not beat around the bush. i wish and pray that you receives sturdy information.
2016-11-26 20:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by depace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all,you must be more calm and steady than him because you are the one that is going to be conforting him..go in the doctor room with him and be by his side...or else you will be wandering what the doctor said to him...if you are close to his family,maybe you should try to talk to them and tell them not to be emotional but be supportive as now your bf need is support and care from his friends and family members...or maybe you can try bringing him to a church if he is a non-malay...miracles does happen if you believe...all the best to you....and you must be ready to accept the fact no matter what happen in future..take care of yourself too!
2006-07-27 18:11:37 · answer #5 · answered by j@NicE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he means that much to you, which im pretty sure you do, i say go to the doctors with him and go into the room with him if he lets you... if the results are bad... just comfort him as much as you can...
and it seems like you can persuade him so you might want to persuade him to tell his family because othewise, if he dies, his family shouldnt be suprised by why... they should know about what's going on in his life... because they also may have certain precautions they can take with him...
2006-07-27 17:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to get well, then accompany him and be by his side. Show your support, show you that you love him (this is the chance to test if your love for him is real). Tell him that you love him. Care for him.
Love sometimes heals a person or even brings a person back from death. It's the power of love.
2006-07-27 17:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must really love your boyfriend alot. yes you should go with him into the doctor's office no mater if it's good or bad because he needs u for comfort and ur love means alot too him. second u should consider telling his family so they can lend some support to him too! don't wait to tell his family! family is very important.god be with you! in our preys.
2006-07-27 18:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, i am so sorry for you and your boyfriend. and you are a good person for sticking by him and caring so much. ask him what he is comfortable with you doing, going with him or waiting and respect what he asks of you. as far as his family, you should suggest that he tell them, and perhaps you can be with him at the time
good luck
2006-07-27 17:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by al 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accompany him as far as he will allow you to....when he is finished with the doctor's visit --- you need to tell him - that it's time his family knew - because you aren't taking the fall for not letting them know --- if he suddenly dies....
If he refuses, you let him know you are going to tell them --- don't let things go on like that --- they would be very upset with you for not letting them know something that important....
2006-07-27 17:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋