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I dreamt my 16 year old big brother was dying. It was this terrible, just dreadful feeling... Then when I woke up, I instantly thanked God that it was a dream. I then realized... how awful it would be if he DID die... I would hate myself. Forever. And just now I realized... the dream may have symbolized him wasting his life on unnessesary things. He plays this computer game called FEAR (I think?) all day and night. He doesn't even know how to drive! Nor does he desire to learn how. What do i do? for the biggest part of my life... he was m best friend. i love him more than words could ever describe. but everytime i try to talk to him, i get a loud and very rude 'what?!'

what should i do???

Answer 1

Tell him to stop because you see visions.

Answer 2

Write him a card or something telling him how special he is to you and that some time when he's not busy you'd really like to talk to him. If he comes to you and asks what you want to talk to him about, don't be too direct. Use the opportunity to see where his head is on things. Ask him if its unusual for you to be thinking about the future so much and what he sees himself doing in the future. That can lead to your mentioning that your looking forward to driving. See what he says about it. If its negative, tell him that you were really hoping he'd hurry up and learn so he could get his permit and then maybe teach you because you think he'd be more patient than your parents (even if that's not true -boost his ego). If he's still negative, then just enjoy the remaining time that he's willing to spend with you. Later you might want to talk to your parents about your concerns. Obviously you love him a great deal; therefore I hope you will understand that what I'm about to suggest isn't intended to underscore your being willing him to do anything for him but the truth of the matter is that he may be going through growing pains or something that he really needs an adults assistance to resolve. Good luck....you sound like the little sister we'd all loved to have had....

Answer 3

Sometimes dreams are just dreams. But maybe it just meant to show you how much he means to you and nothing more? He's only 16, he has his whole life ahead of him! It's not the end of the world if he plays a video game, he'll grow out of it soon enough. Try what you can to get him out more, but don't worry so much about it. He's just going through a phase. Try doing something nice for him now and then just to let him know you're there.

Answer 4

First off I am so thankful that I have the privileged to not have to judge others. The dream could symbolize him leaving for a long time maybe departing from one an other. And as for what can you do to help him show support, tell him you love him be a good example. Last but not least Pray for him, it seem like you already have A relationship, with god. so It couldn't hurt.

Answer 5

First off dreams are just your subconcious' way of dealing with what you're feeling. You're obviously feeling like your brother has cut you out of his life and you miss him. I can understand that he's rude and is tied to other things. You've tried talking to him, and that's not getting you anywhere.
Just a suggestion - send him a note, an email an IM. Be silly and creative. Ask him to go somewhere with you. Tell him you miss him and want to spend a little time with him. I know it sounds corny, but he might get a good giggle out of it and make time to spend with you.
Pick something to do in advance. See a movie together - pick something he'll really like. If he likes video games, ask him to show you how to play. You'll find a way in and you'll get your brother back in the process.

Answer 6

I think what's making you so worried is that this dream seemed too real and it scared you. Just tell your brother about this dream and that it seemed to real and it really scared and made you aware of how it would affect you if he really did die and you just want to let him know how much you love him and how badly you would miss him and how terrible you would feel if he were to have something happen to him. I know dreams like that are so scary. I've had my share of them and woke up teary eyed. So I understand how real they can be. But the idea would be to ask him when it would be a good time to talk to him so that he knows where your coming from. I hope this helps and good luck!

Answer 7

your brother is 16 and he spends all day playing a computer game? does he go to school? what about your parents, are they concerned? maybe your dream means that your brother is letting his life die by spending so much time on the computer, and that game he is playing sounds scary. i think that you should tell him about your dream and how you feel. you need to get between him and his computer. let him know how much you love him and that what he is doing is not only hurting himself, but you too. if you stand firm, he may listen. Good luck, i hope that it works out for you and him

Answer 8

Well sounds like you have two options here. First. The meaner but probably more helpful choice would be to fix it so that he can't play this game anymore. (such as hide his Internet cable, or delete the program, when he's not around) second. Probably not as helpful for getting him to do something proactive. Show an interest in the game and play with him. IT will give you a new common interest and could rekindle you closeness. I learned and started playing Internet games to stay close to the kids in my family.

Answer 9

You should sit down and tell him about your dream tell him what you told us that you really care about him..Why does your Mother/Father let him do this all the time and not say anything? He could grow up being a very violent person if that's the only thing he knows sounds to me that he's starting on the physicals of mean already...

Answer 10

computer games can be very addictive. it may be his way of coping with some problems in his life. the computer game is his happy little world where everything is safe and he doesn't have to deal with stuff. sit down and ask him if he has anything he wants to talk about. try to get him to play a board game with you, or since it's summer time play catch with you outside, or go swimming, or go to the park. 16-yr old guys are weird, so don't take his insults too seriously.

Answer 11

It was a dream, nothing else. I've had dreams about my husband dying in a car wreck, and it's my subconscious because he drives too fast. Many kids today are not driving at 16, My daughter's 16, and MANY of her friends don't have their licenses yet. Talk to your parents if you're really worried and they'll help you feel better. Good luck!