Two nights ago I slept with who I believe to be the most handsome man Ive been with. There was one problem though. When we were getting very hot and heavy, he told me that it I didnt finish him with my hand that he would not be able to last because he was too hot. Well, I did, and he did *** very quickly. We......um...He rested a little and then went to his bathroom to have a cigarett. Which took hm about 15 minutes. By the way, earlier that day he had had 10 beers and before we went to bed he, had two glasses of liquer with sprite. Well, when we were getting into it again, he coulndt seem to get it up, not even hard. He kept saying how embarrest he was and that he did not know why that was happening. I told him not to worry about it, I was happy just being near him. He has not called me since that night. Im worried. I wonder if maybe he was not into me. Maybe "I" was the problem. Will mixing drinks or smoking cause this effect?, or do you think "I" was the problem?
2006-07-27 17:36:34 · 23 answers · asked by Maria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont put this on yourself......you did nothing wrong.,... actually it sounds like you handled it in a very sweet way...... the problem is his, though.... It sounds like he just has a problem with keeping it up to begin with, so he came a little quickly.....then he simply could not get it up again...may have been because he was ashamed of his performance (also probably why he didnt call back)..... chalk it up to experience and please, for the sake of all men, dont change that great personality....
:O)
2006-07-27 17:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my dear, you are in no way the problem.There are several options here, I would just mention a few.The drinking is not even a problem because on the contrary,it would instead increase the sexual urge, pleasure and all that stuff.Now either:
- He is not into you and cannot pretend long enough.
- He has a sexual problem thus he should see his doctor, this however could be possible only if it happens like that all /most of the time.
-He might have been too tired and exhausted from the activities of the day.
-this is all I can think of for now.Will give more information if I remember more okay.
Please don't get all worked up, there is nothing wrong with you, there is a high probability it is not your fault.
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2006-07-27 18:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by hiahas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sometimes drinking and smoking can cause this effect. This has happened to me several of times and i know i am a very attractive girl, not trying to sound conceded or anything but i know i wasn't the problem. Sometimes a man can get that way and yes it is embarrising to them so its good you did what u did and didn't push the issue to make him feel any worse. A man and his penis seems to have different minds you see. Sometimes a man can want it so much that it doesn't react and he can't do nothing about it, and the man knows when there's no hope for it or not so there's no need to push the issue if he can't. You mentioned you'll done it before so you know its not because of another woman. Just know that there are things that us women will never understand about a man and vice versa with them with us. But if you trust your man and know what he's doing then keep giving him that understanding and let it rest, he probaly will never know the problem hisself so its one of those things that you just have to understand, kinda like when women go through mental pause.Stay by his side and try to understand the unexplainable and you'll be alright. If it happens frequently then try doing other activities in the sex field where you both will get pleased regardless, because fingers and mouth service will always be in effect unless something physically happens. Good luck!
2006-07-27 17:51:39 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are never the problem if you drink to much you will not be able to get hard quick also between male orgasms take at least an hour before we're ready again, If he as high blood pressure ( caused by drinkin n smoking ) that could also have an effect. Hasnt called you because he prolly doesnt think you want him since he couldnt perform. also maybe he had something else on his mind although usually sex clears the mind lol.
2006-07-27 17:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by sugrdady03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had too much to drink. My girlfriend knows not to expect any fun if I have too much to drink, even though she gets supercharged with a few drinks on board. You should call him just to let him know that you're ok with what happened, if you are. Let him know ir you ARE interested you would like to try this again, this time without all the alcohol. If he was that hot for you and now that that has happened he doesn't call, I can pretty much guarantee that he is embarressed and thinks that you won't be into him.If he came that fast because he was that hot, then he would definately like to see you again. Trust me he IS into you. Two words....................CALL HIM, CALL HIM, CALL HIM.
2006-07-27 18:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by rsqur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking will affect this. So will smoking as it affects bloodflow. But he did already c*m and only rested for 15-30 mins. It's perfectly normal. Depeding on age it will take a man anywhere from 30 mins to hrs. to be ready to go again. So you nor he need not worry.
2006-07-27 17:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, women always take the idea of an erection to seriously. Its not you. For some guys drinking does make it really hard to get an erection, sometimes impossible. Im sure hes embarassed, that is a big pride killer for a guy. I would call him, he probably is waiting for YOUR call because hes ashamed of what happened. But on the erection thing, its not you, its the alcohol.
2006-07-27 17:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by warlok_84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the drinking was the problem some guys cant do both and the reason he probably hasnt called is because he is to embarrest maybe u should try talking to him and see what the deal is
2006-07-27 17:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by jeffery b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both drinking and smoking can cause trouble. Tell him to drink less and lose the cigarettes. If that doesn't work, have him see a urologist. There's plenty out there to solve this problem!
2006-07-27 17:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by szydkids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl it's not your fault. The reason why he hasn't called you since then, is because he really was embarrased and he's ashamed.
You should call him. Really though, he shouldnt drink and smoke that can really mess it up for him thats the reason he couldnt get it up. Call him and let him know that you dont care. You was happier being beside him anyway. Good Luck!
2006-07-27 17:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋