I'm a guy that has lost my faith in love and romance, is there a way to restore it?

Question

I was in a good relationship several months ago, but it ended because she "did not feel that way about me." Since then I've noticed that relationships have ruined many people, including my mother, and that people do crazy, dangerous, and risky things for love. (Like Davy Jones in "Dead Man's Chest" lol) I've been trying to substitute my want for affection with a desire for money and power since those things cannot let you down if you use them correctly. But it's been somewhat of a battle. It just does not feel the same.

P.S. Tom, blackhawk was named for the Blackhawk Helicopter, I'm a reservist.

P.S. I'm a 23 yr old college senior.

Answer 1

watch some sappy romantic comedies..

Answer 2

I don’t know how old you are, but it sounds like you have to go through a few more relationships. I don’t know many people who found their “one true love” after only one or two relationships. I once was told by a counselor that “of course you hate all men, because all the men you’ve ever seen treated you bad”. The point is, you cannot judge every woman on the few you have met. Have you dated every woman in the world? Of course not! Take heart, I finally met my soul mate at the age of 37 after a disastrous first marriage and many failed relationships. I have been happily married for 13 years now. We tend to judge an entire group of people on the few we have met. When you think about it, that is not very smart. I’ve also noticed, for what it’s worth, that men tend to go after women who are attractive, regardless of their character. Maybe you need to look inside yourself and decide what is truly important to you in a relationship. When I decided that I didn’t need a good-looking man, I began to find the true men.

Answer 3

Of course... there'll always be a little bit of hope that's hidden inside you somewhere! One day, you'll cross paths with a woman you've never seen before and just be blown away-- you could never even imagine that love like that is possible! It'll feel like you're dancing whenever you walk beside her, singing whenever you speak with her, and you'll be happier than you ever knew possible, even if you already thought you were perfectly happy! You just have to remind yourself that love IS out there, all you have to do is sit back and wait for it to find you... or you can get a head start and look for it a bit!


Is your name "blackhawk" after the band?

Answer 4

have you been burned? if you were oh well, but it's how you took the lesson after you got burned. guys who are romantic and thoughtful often forget that they are men and are easilt hurt when it hits the fan, they think in order to keep a women you must forever give flowers, poems ect.. while this is nice it is not essential, and falling into that routine instead of being a man with your own pursuits and goals is what will attract women to you , from there you can wine and dine them ( just not too much ), if you become too much of a push over ( despite being thoughful ) sooner or later a women will cheat for someone she perceives as being a real man and not the males she is presently hooked up with,

Answer 5

Realize that love isn't the problem, it's the people you've trusted with your heart that have failed you.
Stop dating completely. Make some new interests or hobbies that better yourself and will help you be a better mate to the right person when they come along.
Try and invision the person that you will one day be with and ask yourself is this person worth letting go and forgiving others and yourself for bad choices made in the past.
When you meet the girl that is meant to be yours, trust me, your feeling about love with change and her love will restore your faith.
Best wishes.

Answer 6

Well, keep urself busy with work or doing things that u like or meaningful to you. Do things that can add value to urself. Have faith in God that He will provide someone who will love you for who you are. By God's grace you will be able to love again. It's a matter of time. When the right time comes, things will fall nicely into place.
All the best yah!!

Answer 7

Sure! Get over it! Isn't life worth more than going around feeling sorry for yourself. Why let one or a few bad experiences permanently ruin your life. Come on man... love yourself first. "To thine own self be true". Just be more careful and wiser when you get involved the next time. Don't be so quick to give your all. Let them earn it. I am more than positive that there is someone out there that will be the love of your life.

Answer 8

Forget the Past and always remember that not everyone is the same, always give the next person a chance, when you see that this person is not the one then you move on...you can see and feel when someone is just playing with your heart, and mind, now that you experienced hurt before. But always remember not to take the baggage to the next relationship...Happiness is just around the corner..Good luck and God Bless...

Answer 9

I'm a guy WHO has lost HIS faith in love and romance. Is there a way to restore it?

You are disappointed in someone. People fail, humans fail simply because we are not perfect, we let down other people, we betray our friends, we deceive, cheat, etc.

Fortunatelly, LOVE is a universal truth and there are many manifestations of LOVE... LOVE does not remain in one person... you'll meet new people and LOVE and ROMANCE will arouse without you even notice this...

Just remain patient and open your heart and mind to new experiences and learn from this one.

Answer 10

from me to you if u cant be by yourself u cant be with anyone else what u need to do is just be by yourself after not thinking about love for a while someone will come into ur life that ur enjoy and most likely want to be with and then ur love will be restored and being with that person will make the romance come back on its on

Answer 11

Watch Romeo and Juliet with Leonardo DiCaprio. That should restore it for you. Now I know what you're thinking Leo what the hell but trust me it's kick *** and and a great love tragedy. The whole willing to die for someone thing should kind of respark it for you.