He will not commit to our relationship and I found out today totally by being nosey, he signed his name to a huge mortgage for 1 of his kids. He does not have that kind of money. He is still paying his own mortgage. He works non stop. He never has any time for himself and he is heavily in debt.
Tonite the phone starts ringing. He calls me at least 4 times from work every evening. He wants to know what I am doing. Discuss the plans for tommorrow. Talk to me about food, the weather, the job, anything and everything. I am totally in love with this fool, but I dont trust him to be my life mate any longer. He has to let those kids grow up and get on with their lives without badgering him for money. What do I tell him?
2006-07-27 17:28:02 · 4 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well in my oinion you can't tell him to choose between you and his kids.... I assume they are from another woman. If you have a close relationship with the kids maybe you could talk to them directly. If you love him that much hang in there. But if not you have to remove yourself from your sitch, it will only hurt more the longer you are around.
2006-07-27 17:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..he seems like not the brightest crayon in the box. The most you can do, is talk to him about it. Be like listen..
"I know your dedicated to help your kids through life, but you also have to remember other permanant dedications you have (like his own mortgage.) This doesn't only affect you and your debt, but it also affects me. I love you, and you don't equal your responsibilites as much as I do, and I think its time you start to pull yourself out of debt, let your kids grow up, and worry about yourself right now because you have enough on your own plate."
If things don't start to change, talk to him more about it, ask him about financial plans he has for himself. If he doesn't change, make a break from him for awhile or just completely end the relationship. It's really difficult to be with someone with financial issues and has a lot of debt.
2006-07-28 00:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by thehereyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to let those kids grow up, get on with their lives, and stop badgering him for money! He probably won't do it though, so you've got to decide if you can live with this.....and it's always going to irritate you.
2006-07-28 00:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to wise up u just bought a lady smith and wesson 357 magnum and u r gonna stick it in his shorts and pull the trigger
2006-07-28 00:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by EAGLE_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋