i have a 6 year old brother and our mother died 10 months ago?

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i have a 6 year old brother and our mother died 10 months ago.. and he talks about his mommy all the time and my dad just walks away or tells him yea or something like that how can i help him or my dad ? i dont think my dad likes to talk about her but he has to my brother soon is going to start to forget alot about her and he dont have to i just dont know how to help him i try to tell him where she is and she loves him but i think he wants to hear it from our dad..

iam 17 years old i have a 6 year old brother and our mother died 10 months ago.. and he talks about his mommy all the time and my dad just walks away or tells him yea or something like that how can i help him or my dad ? i dont think my dad likes to talk about her but he has to my brother soon is going to start to forget alot about her and he dont have to i just dont know how to help him i try to tell him where she is and she loves him but i think he wants to hear it from our dad..

Answer 1

you dont give your age. if you are in school go see the counselor and get her to help you. i am sorry you lost your Mother. you are very right that your brother needs to talk about her and be helped to remember her with pictures and stories.

Answer 2

Losing a parent is all ways a long journey to
recovery. Actually your dad is doing the best
he can with this. Your brother even though he
is 6 he won't forget that easily. You can be a
helpful sister by talking about all the neat things
your mom did that way when your brother is sad
it will give him a positive image of your mom.
It will aid in the healing process. Even collecting
photos and talking about her with one another.
It would be a nice thing if you can show them to your dad
your love for him and your mom. Any other family
member who could assist you with grief and loss?
My prayers are with you and your family.

Answer 3

Everyone needs to go to the library. There are books on grief counseling, how to talk to small kids about death, how to cooperate as a family instead of working as individuals.
One thing my family did was a scrapbook sorta thing, get pics together and remember good times, and make certain to write them down now while they are fresh.
As he gets older, these memories might fade. He will be glad you took the time to make it with him. Maybe your dad can join in when he is strong enough to put aside his broken heart and think of you two first. Don't count on your brother accepting it, even if your dad tells him.
If he wants to draw a picture for mom, and leave it at her resting place, let him. Sometimes the younger people live longer in denial that anyone. There is no set time for grieving, so give each other room. I know my sister once would give hugs for people who were not around. So maybe you can give your brother a hug and let him know it was from you and mommy. Good luck dear, and do remember to give yourself time to reflect, time for just you to grieve for just her.

Answer 4

LOSING SOMEONE CLOSED TO YOU IS QUIT A DEVASTATION! I UNDERSTAND YOUR YOUNGER BROTHER'S SITUATION,HE STILL IN THE STAGE OF MOM;S CARE! i TEARED UP NOW WHILE I AM ANSWERING YOUR QUESTION BECAUSE MY DAD DIED OF HEART ATTACK,2 YEARS AGO THEN OUR HOUSE BURNED DOWNED BY A FIRE AND AFTER FEW MONTHS MY SISTER DIED IF BREAST CANCER!i WAS SO DEVASTATED!YOU HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY NOW TAKING CARE OF YOUR BROTHER AS WELL AS YOUR DAD,WHAT THE MOST IMPORTANT IS THE SHOIW MUST GO,START A NEW LIFE AND SOON YOU CAN ADJUST THE SITUATION! THAT IS NORMAL, OUR LOVE ONE'S JUST COME AND GO!TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF MOST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A LITTLE BROTHER TO BE TAKEN CARE OF!GOOD LUCK AND I AM SORRY ABOUT YOUR MOM!

Answer 5

i feel very sorry for u & your brother. thank god your brother has got u as his sister. who is concerned about him. since your father hasn't yet got over the misery it is your responsibility to look after him. at such a tender age as yours it is difficult to give motherly affection to your brother. but believe me women r born with that quality. so, with a little bit of effort i am sure u can do it. if your father is not cooperating with u leave him alone for few days till he gets over his feelings. try to talk to him & explain your problem in looking after your brother. ask him to help u out. he will definitely do it for your sake because he loves u also.talk with your brother the nice time both of u spent with your mom. tell him that she is still there watching over u. keep your mother's photo & start doing all your work after praying to her your brother also will follow u.god bless u .my prayers are with u.

Answer 6

Yes, youre dad needs to sit him down and explain it to him. Other wise he thinks she will be coming here. It is hard on every one. Your father must learn to except it also. I just recently lost my sister. We were so close. Give him some time , let him deal with it in his own way. Good Luck Pem