3 yr old boy that wont potty train please help?

Question

my 3 yr old boy about a couple of mths ago fell into the toliet and got stuck well after that he will get on the toliet but he wont do anything and before he fell in he was going all the time and he was almost potty trained but ever since that day he just gets up on the potty and sits there i have even tried to have my 4 yr old boy help me but that hasnt helped either and then today he went number 2 in the bath with the toliet right there next to the bath i dont understand why he didnt just get out of the bath and get on the toliet i have tried everything to potty train him im out of options so if anyone has any ideas i would really apreciate it thank you so much!

Answer 1

Here it is- it has worked for my 2 kids,and others after I tell them........

1. get m and m's handy
2. get a small potty chair
3. get a couple books about potty
4. you need to be home for about 4-5 days straight
5. now you can start. let them run around bare-but
6. Set the timer for 1/2 hour. Tell him/her to sit on the potty for 5 min. (read them a book in the mean time if it's to long for them.) If they go, give lots and lots of praise!!! I mean go crazy!! Give them about 3 m and m's.
7. Set the timer for 1/2 hour
8. Avoid asking the question "you got to go potty?'
9. Timer goes off- ok! What does that mean junior? Time to go potty again he or she would say, or you say it if they don't
10. repeat process all day long. If they go # 2 in the potty, reward with a handful of m and m's. They are very colorful and kids love them!!

11. Praise praise praise. I do spank my kids for behavior problems such as lying, disobedience, and bad attitudes, but never for having an accident. If there is an accident, clean it up queitly, and don't say much at all. Remind them it's ok, but try to make it in the potty next time, or in your own words.

Good luck!!! Hope this helps you. My 2 year old girl was potty-trained in one day with the method. Took my 2 1/2 year old son a week. Leave pull-ups on them at night just in case.
p.s. if this doen't work at all, try again in a few months.

Answer 2

Patience is always a good thing. The child will do it when he is ready and there is no need to rush. Reassure the child that it is ok to feel that way. Maybe since he won't go into the toilet but will go in something else I have a suggestion. Maybe you should take him and buy him a potty chair. I know you may feel you are going backwards here as far as potty training but if he has his own special toilet then it won't seem so scary. You can even have him pick out a special book that you can read to him when he wants to go to the bathroom. Just give him lots of hugs and let him decide when it is alright for him.

Answer 3

I started out by buying a simple white potty that looked the closest to a regular toilet. No bells n' whistles. Then I got her the "Feel N Learn" pull-ups which are great because when they are wet, they feel wet to the child. Then we had a "sticker" program. I would put her potty in front of the toilet and we would both go potty together. Every time she was successful, she got a sticker that she placed on the bathroom cupboard beside her potty chair. That way she was able to see the rewards of her efforts. And I also made a big effort to praise her really dramatically! Then we'd both empty her potty into the toilet and wave and say "bye-bye peepees/poopoos, thanks for coming out!" She'd sometimes just sit on the chair and "pretend" to potty just so she'd get a sticker! But she quickly figured out that she needed to produce visible results... It took about 2 months. Then I took her shopping and let her pick out her own underwear (Dora). She was so happy to wear them and very, very proud. She had a few accidents but I never made a big deal out of them to her. It got tricky when we went out because it's important that as soon as said she had to potty, we had to pull over right away. I was sure NOT to fall back on the pullups just because we were out. It just prolongs the process. She was able to wear underwear during the day and a pullup at night. Then, eventually she lost the nightime pullup and I woke her at 2am and took her to the potty - every night for about a week. And then that was that.

Every child is different tho - the key is to make a big fuss when they go and not make a fuss if they don't. Good luck with it.

Answer 4

my son did the same thing. he was doing fine and then he lost interest in the potty. what i did was just put him in "big boy" underwear all day. he only gets a pull up at nap and bedtime. i made a big deal out of going on the potty and i just took him to the potty every hour. after about three days he was back on track. good luck. i know what you are going through. remember boys take longer to train.

Answer 5

Make a game out of it. Put a jar on the toilet and tell him everytime he goes #1 he can put one marble in it and #2 he can put 2 marbles and when it is full he gets a surprise, have his brother join in too and eventually he will start going all the time. I hope this helps!! Another idea is go to a dollar store and buy little cheap toys and let him pick something out if he goes all day with no accidents.

Answer 6

hi...maybe just for a little while and for a change, you can have him stand on a small not to high of a stool...this way he can pee standing up and get more comfortable with it again...as for the business of #2....you could go back to the basics and use a little potty for him, you know the ones i'm talking about...this way he doesn't see the water and he won't be afraid...it's not going to last like this forever....build up his courage and let him know that you want to do whatever makes him comfortable...but big boys use the potty and shouldn't pee pee and poo poo in the diaper or undies...good luck...i hope it helps..

Answer 7

Don't let him out of your sight.

It is going to take time for him to get back into the swing of things and to trust that the toilet isn't going to swallow him again.

Just put up some baby gates and keep him in the room with you. When it looks like he has to go, take him and sit him on the toilet. If he refuses, let him get up and take him back into "supervised custody".

Don't worry if he starts going to the bathroom off of the toilet, the important thing is you rush him back to the toilet and make him finish there. Praise the holy mess out of him afterward. Tell him you are so proud that he's not afraid to use the potty and that he's such a big boy.

Keep in mind, he's still going to be afraid, but you'll be making steps and that's what counts.

Don't get angry with him - my daughter began holding in her BM's so much we had to give her suppositories to make her go... and they were horribly compacted balls that made her scream and cry in pain. We learned quickly to relax, and she did too.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Put him back in diapers for a while until he shows interest again. If you force him, it'll only make the fear worse. He's had a very traumatic experience and doesn't want to chance it happening again. So give it 6 months or so until he's seemed to forget about it.

Answer 9

I just went through this with my son. I told him that if he didn't get back on the potty and do what he was supposed to do that the "pee pee monster" was going to bite his 'winky', and the "poo poo monster" was going to bite off his butt cheek. *laughing*

It worked. He hasn't had an 'accident' in almost 2 weeks.

Answer 10

I agree... back off and he will let you know when he's ready. Perhaps provide a child-sized portable potty, which he can use when and if he wishes to... a bit less scarey for awhile :)