with the guy who broke my heart, but he's completely over me, after 3 years, it was all a lie.. how do i get over it?
2006-07-27 16:47:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
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2006-07-27 16:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over some-body is to put as many bodies between you and him as possible :)
Seriously, remember one thing: right now it might feel like he's so special and unique and you'll never feel like that about anybody else... but you know what? As I was going through my life I discovered that if I keep my eyes open I find one "special" guy at least once a year! So - do some grieveing, say goodbye to him in your heart. Little rituals can help, like getting rid of all memorabilia and pictures related to him, wiping out his addresses/phone numbers from your records... consider him dead for all practical purposes. Then open your eyes to the future and see a whole big world full of wonders and wonderful people that are just waiting to be discovered by you! You are valuable and there will be men who will know and appreciate it. I sure found a number of attractive individuals that appreciated me :) There is no reason why this very year you cannot meet a man who will sweep you off your feet and be your love forever.
2006-07-28 00:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anastasia A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard i know but u just have to remember it was a lie and think about what went wrong...it helps to find someone knew. I dated this guy for four years from the time i was 14 till the time i was 18....not too long after wqe broke up i fell inlove the the perfect guy and got married yet i still thought about my ex alot. I even went ot see him and said shamefull things. It wasn't until nearly 2 years of marraige and realizing I had perfection why the hell am i upset about the past that i realized something. I wasn't still thinking about my ex because i still loved him. It was beacuase i not only wanterd him to miss me i wanted him alone and unhappy like he left me and i wanted him to see how great i was doing. And i am doin great i have a wounderfull husband a perfect little girl, security and am much better off where i am now then where i would be with him. I certianly hope this helps.
2006-07-27 23:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by F.Duke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your heart gets broken it hurts I know. U have no choice but to move on. He is not the only guy in the world. There is someone for u that will love and treat u with respect. u deserve no less then that. It's okay to start dating again. U live and u learn .
2006-07-27 23:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Icandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time. You can't just get over being in love with someone sometimes. It takes a while. Learn to have fun without him. Remember the good times, remember the bad times, but try to make new memories. I know it's hard, but eventually the hurt will fade and you'll be able to move on, too.
2006-07-27 23:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An important thign to have is control over your emotions. With these skills that you can develop, you'll learn how to willingly open your heart to love, or close it in times of pain. This way no one can hurt you emotionally. You must believe you can do this however for it to happen. Once you do however, your life will be much smoother.
2006-07-27 23:52:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your self occupied , go out with friends and the best thing is to pray and ask for Gods guidance talk to Him coz He's the one who will guide you in every step of the way. Think positive that guy is not the only guy in the planet and its not the end of the world, your heart may be broken but your personality isn't, you do not deserve him. come to think of it sometimes we dont' get what we want but instead we get what we need.
2006-07-28 00:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every day when you get up look at yourself in the mirror and say. I Love You and You deserve the best. If he does not love you anymore how can he be the best. Girl get over it. Go meet your other friends and help them solve their problems. you will feel good from inside. Promise yourself to do a good deed everyday. Live for yourself and your own happiness. Your happiness is with the person who loves you... not who you love.
2006-07-27 23:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Pinky Patel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girlie, you don't. this is sad but very true. you will learn to deal with the pain but it will always burn inside. try taking the key to your heart away from him and swallowing it (metaphorically of course). then when the time is right and you are ready to love again you will be able to lock him in a small place of your mind with that very key. And simply move on... good luck
2006-07-27 23:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am soo sorry about all of that! Look I know it hurts but he didn't love you. HE'S A JERK! Repeat that to yourself 10 times b4 bed each night for a month.Also in your spare time make a list of things that anoyyed you or you hated about him. I hope you feel better soon. Again soo sorry.
2006-07-27 23:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by ~~~free2luv~~~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will some day figure out that the love you had was the wrong kind. Love is between two people for ever. I know, you don't believe it, but you will.
2006-07-27 23:56:59 · answer #11 · answered by link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋