I know that sounds stupid, because I'm not that old. But, I still would very much appreciate anyones advice! I'm not really outgoing, and I'm pretty shy. I know I'm not the prettiest girl, (not even close in fact) and I'm also not the thinnest. But I've also seen heavier girls than me, with boyfriends. I'm kind of a loner, so I think that's why I want a boyfriend so bad. I act really stupid in public, and I'm sure that makes the people around me uncomfortable. I never really give out the single-girl-looking-for-a-relationship vibe either. I know I should just enjoy life at the moment, because I'm really still just a kid. But, my life also isn't that fascinating. So, guys and gals, if you have any advice for me, I would appreciate it SO much!! Thanks to everyone who answers!
2006-07-27 16:25:43 · 14 answers · asked by [[everlong]] 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and to all you F*cktards that are saying spred your legs and be easy, and all that sh*t, YOU'RE PIGS!! First of all, the things you said are disgusting (especially for somone my age!) and second of all, I'M NOT EASY!!!! I DON'T EVEN BELIEVE IN PRE-MARITAL SEX!!
2006-07-27 16:39:35 · update #1
Ok, two things stuck out in your message. A) I think that you lack confidence (not saying this to be hurtful, it comes with the teenage territory). I think you do because of all the negative things you said about yourself. We all have issues with our body, our personality, the way we act in public, that's normal. But you're focusing on that. Concentrate on your assest, which you do have! We all have at least 1 things that sets us apart. B) A boyfriend will not make your life better in highschool. Boyfriends often break hearts, and you don't need that right now. You need to focus on establishing friendships, they'll take you much further. And sometimes, friendship turns into love. So the bottom line is, a boyfriend will NOT make you a better person, only you can achieve that. Just love you and take care of you, and a guy will become attracted to you because of your confidence. Good luck sweetie!
2006-07-27 16:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by CC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends ientirely as to why you want a boyfriend. If you want a boyfriend because you are lonely, then I think thats entirely the wrong reason to have one. A friend will be a better choice..
You are young, and someone your age should really be more worried about school and some plan for the future ( college, job,etc). You need to work on the "you" and define who you are and you want to be. Be yourself and not worry about others having boyfriends, or the better car, or the better whatever. You need to find you.
Many guys, find that a strong "will-ed" woman and a woman with a personality is very appealing. It is not always about how you look...but more so about "how you are".
Life is what you make of it. Make it good or make it bad.
2006-07-27 16:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by freechylde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know that maturity is a step you need to take to get a relationship. If you had not taken a bath for a week you would turn people off - so you know your behavior with people turns other people away - and you do it anyway....so your signals are stay away - I do not want anyone close - maybe from fear of rejection itself...so you can reject first...or have an excuse for the rejection. Do not be a victim. Start with being the person you feel deserves a boyfriend. Boys notice confidence. If you are overwhelming it is difficult to get to know you. Cool it. Take it one day at a time and be the person you want to become.
The boys will come in due time. You are right in your statement "I am young...etc" enjoy life!
2006-07-27 16:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try for freshman year. Freshman year is when we're all dorky and adjusting to a new school. The sophomore year. Spend this year buying better clothes and learning how to communicate without sounding stupid. Make lots of guy friends and open up to them (just a little...). That's what I did, and now I have a really great bf. Don't rush things. They will come in time.
2006-07-27 16:29:05 · answer #4 · answered by N. Clark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be yourself. Just keep doing what you're doing. If you try too hard and do crazy things you won't be yourself and if you get a boyfriend he will think you are someone you r not. If its meant for you to have a boyfriend it will happen, take it from someone who had the same situation. I've been dating this guy for 10 months. It can happen
2006-07-27 16:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Tam77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you sound like me when i was in high school!!!! ok this is what happened to me (maybe it will help) this actually happened by accident. I went out with a player and then broke up with him!!! (i didnt know he was a *player* at the time) i found that out after i broke up with him. he was one of those guys who just goes out with girls to get them in bed then gets rid of them. Well i didnt sleep with him before i figured out what he was up to and dumped him first . So naturally he spread rumors all over that i was easy! and then every guy (even the actually good ones) wanted to go out with me. Between 9th grade and 12th grade i had aprox. 37 boyfriends and i only slept with 3 of them one was my feiance and the other 2 were eventually my husbands (one then the other not both at the same time. i got marrie to the first one the summer before 12th it only lasted long enuf for me to see him cheating on me for HIS step brother EEEWWWW. and then after i devorced him i got married again the dec after 12th grade. Im happily still married. Hope this helps. it really is inocent enuf just remember not to get into a compromising situation where some one could rape you. (keep the relationships at school during school till you find one of those good ones K?)
oh by the way my life wasnt that fasinating either I never went to any partys and only had a few good friends One of which became my current husband. I graduated toward the top of my class and never did drugs. I at heart was a bit of a nerd. And yes having that many bf's came with lots of heart ache. LOTS.
2006-07-27 16:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk up to the biggest stud in the school and tell hime how wet he makes you. Then walk away. Word will get around that you are an easy ho...and presto, chango; you will be getting some.
2006-07-27 16:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by jaredshouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go out looking for a boyfriend. If you meet someone you like then pursue it. Wanting something like a boyfriend usually leads to a bad decision.
2006-07-27 16:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by goncarlo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find a guy that you like, then go out, not the other way around. Imagine if you got a bf, and then this perfect guy turns up and you are stuck with mr loser, and he thinks you are taken, so he ignores you.
2006-07-27 16:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about a boyfriend. Put school first, boyfriends should come later. If you are supposed to be with someone then God will put them in your life. Trust me.
2006-07-27 16:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋