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2006-07-27 16:23:15 · 11 answers · asked by Kimberly 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes, i think there is a song......once bitten twice shy.
that can do it.
2006-07-27 16:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by juslookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep I think people can really be afraid of falling in love. I'm at a confused state now. I might be feeling that way either that or I am really broken. After three boyfriends and several dating experiences that failed and basically all of them didn't work out or I find things in them that I really don't like, I think I just gave up. Now I really don't care anymore and am just really anti -relationship. I guess I might be really picky when I pick my guys and thats why the majority I stop talking to. Im only picky because of my history. My parents were separated and basically had gone through domestic violence and abuse. I would not date a guy who would swear at me, is too controlling or doesn't know how to compromise things when dating a girl. I also would not date a guy who doesn't know what he wants. If he is talking to someone else, hes dropped because he obviously is shaky about having me or the other person, hes not strong about who he actually wants....so maybe I am heartbroken? or maybe I am just afraid to get into another crappy relationship.
2006-07-27 23:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by vietlitogrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEah, 100%. "falling in love" (I.E. infatuation) can and more often than not results in one person really learning and loving the other and it not being the same- the non-capable of depth of intimacy person bails and finds another infatuation. If the prson who lost out takes it PERSONAL that it had anything to do with THEM (vs. the incapacity for real intimacy the other has, and remember we are talking not about casual relationships but "falling in love" stuff- the seemingly real thing).. Well then they can be afraid of that fast-intimact thing.
The solution is to take it slow, as slow as someone needs to learn to truly TRUST.
Without trust it's just more of the same BS.
Anyone who won't respect that need isn't there out of love.
However, if there is withdrawing that happens, and loss of intimacy, that can be very hard... and relationships can fluxuate sometimes in this way. A loving paradigm will allow this to happen and focus on who each other is, vs. just the needs being met.
We can really be afraid of anything- even things that don't make one bit of sense to ANYONE else... I learned that the hard way with someone I love and her fears. We're not even friends anymore she is so afraid of things.
2006-07-30 03:48:58 · answer #3 · answered by PsychStudent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, if they've fallen in love before, and had their heart broken, they probably could be afraid. I know I would be! Good Question!!
2006-07-27 23:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by [[everlong]] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that those of us who have been in love know that love hurts and maybe it's not enogh sometimes and that is pretty scary. But if you are fallingin love for the first time then there is no way in hell that can be scary!
2006-07-27 23:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suppose afraid of that love can leave you vonerable to someone and u r trusting them with your heart, i feel we are afraid to get hurt thats why we shy away from love, either way lonliness will get you too so your dammed both ways,
2006-07-27 23:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by sugarpantsangel21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya cuz they got there heart broken by someone they love or really cared about them . so being scary just means u don't want your heart broken like last time .
2006-07-27 23:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by peachiepie40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes because if they have had their heartbroken before then they might think that if they fall in love again it's prolly going to happen again.
2006-07-27 23:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by la_reina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes people might be affriad of getting there heart broken or maybe other reasons
2006-07-27 23:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by lana h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not afraid of falling in love.. im afraid of getting hurt... dats it..
2006-07-27 23:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by mIsErY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋