The problem is he said that he is not sure if he is going to wanna wait for me to get out of work. I work till 12:00 and I probally could get out early but he said it is too early to talk about that weekend. Should I be mad at him for not letting me know about what he wants to do? should I tell him that I don't want to go if he can't wait? The reason I won't go is that last time I got lost and ended locking my keys in my car and it was a nightmare anyways what should I do? I
2006-07-27 16:04:46 · 9 answers · asked by raven25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is staying overnight and he will not be home until his birthday at night.
2006-07-27 16:09:54 · update #1
he is completely "taken up" with family responsibilities. Nice, guy, sure, but not in the same place of life you are (and probably never will be, if he is not sensitive to a simple question).
Sounds like a putz. Move on.
2006-07-27 16:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to be included in his life, but only on your terms.
I could ask you if you are ready to become a parent to this child. I could ask you if you think your relationship with this guy has progressed to the point where he also thinks you could handle being a parent to his child. I could also ask you if you have talked to him about the long term, or if he even considers you to be "parent" material... but this situation is no longer about you.
Instead, let's focus on the father and his daughter for a moment:
If he is choosing to spend the day with his daughter, why not let him call the shots? It is his birthday, isn't it?
There is also his daughter's age and temperament to consider. Is she old enough to understand that the woman in the swimsuit with Daddy is Daddy's friend who may or may not become her new mommy?
When you're dealing with a situation like this, it gets very complicated because it is no longer about you and him. The situation has suddenly become about him and his daughter, which means his daughter's mother is involved, as well as all of the baggage from their ENTIRE relationship from when it all began between them and what's going on now...
For the time being, just back off and let him think it through. The worst thing you could do is pressure him into doing what he doesn't want to do. That kind of behavior is a recipe for disaster in any relationship.
2006-07-27 23:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rudy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to give you a hint that he wants to just hang out with his daughter.....which is cool..... I would tell him to have fun and that you'll see him later and maybe make some special plans of your own for when he comes home
2006-07-27 23:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever thought that he just wants to spend the day with his daughter, nothing wrong with that. Plan something for the two of you in the evening.
2006-07-27 23:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better he decides how he want to spend HIS day.
If he want to go with you to somewhere, he should tell you clearly.
It's possible he want you don't go to work that day but he is not talking clearly.
I think you have to talk about your relation AFTER his birthday day.
2006-07-27 23:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by PeruChismo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already told you that he's not sure he wants to wait for you. What does that tell you? Hello?
I think you need to reassess this relationship.
2006-07-27 23:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like he really want you to be with him on his birthday .could you getsome one to to work that day for you or is it to late to request that day off.
2006-07-27 23:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by sugarplum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably you are jealous and you are going to ruin his day.
Also, I sense that you guys don't communicate well.
2006-07-27 23:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Jean V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him decide why does it have to be about you it is his birthday let him chose on his terms
2006-07-27 23:08:29 · answer #9 · answered by fireman_hunt_fish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋