recently 3 "out of the blue" family members moved in (I didn't ask them to move in) and it has more than tripled the work load it's a Dad and 2 small kids the father doesn't work and is making no effort to do so how do I deal with the stress of them living here I all so take care of my wheelchair bound Mom 24/7 asking them to move is not an option cause they would be in the streets
2006-07-27 15:59:47 · 10 answers · asked by texasangeleyes1968m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Give the DAD/FATHER 2 weeks to find a job. If he doesn't HE and the kids are OUT!!!
Tough love here!!! No Ifs, ands or buts about it!!!
It is NOT your problem if they are out on the streets. There are MANY places they can go.
The DAD can contact your local Department of Human Services, Get emergency shelter, food stamps etc.
He also can contact the Salvation Army, Community Action Agency and other Social Service Organizations in the area.
They all have assistance they can provide for him & the kids. Also many churchs have funds available for this type of situation.
All he has to do is CALL and APPLY!!!
MAKE HIM DO IT IMMEDIATELY!!!
DO NOT LET HIM WAIT ONE MORE DAY!
2006-07-27 16:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, my condolences. Second, get them involved in the household. Divide the chores, cooking, etc. Don't know how young the kids are, but even small kids can help with some chores. Make things as pleasant as possible for everyone and have fun. Mom's in a wheelchair but you all can still go out- to the zoo, movies, etc. Do things together as a family and make the newcomers feel at home. I don't know the situation behind all this, but the kids are probably having a hard time. They may hide it, but things like this can have an adverse affect on them for the rest of their lives.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-27 16:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really feel for you i was in the same situation ( with family)the stress was too much .i became ill myself,so i moved away after i nearly died .i cut almost all stressful situations outta my life.,of course its kinda lonely but ill live longer and i have more privacy than i have ever had, im very ill still,but id be dead if i hadnt got my *** outta there.stress kills,,,,i now have lived on my own 6 years alone although i do have a personal care attendant that comes in and helps me,its great!!! o thank heaven!!!!!
2006-07-27 16:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by EAGLE_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him by letting him know he needs to find work cause you have alot to take care of already and remind him that his 2 kids need him emotionally and financially. Take it day by day and always hold your head high.
2006-07-27 16:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll53175 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd move out! Is that an option? If not .... when I find my house and my mind crowded I walk, sometimes for miles, but it clears my head and relieves my stress.
2006-07-27 16:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got unexpected long term guests, I got us all a memberships to the YMCA.
Nothing like exercise and karate classes to relieve stress.
2006-07-27 16:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down, be strong, lay down a few ground rules, see if there is a shelter close by for Dad.
2006-07-27 16:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sit in my car..
Lock the doors..
And scream as loud as I can..
Cursing all the people I want.
Take that you downers... Grr.
2006-07-27 16:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a shower.
make some prayers.
try to lie down.
2006-07-27 16:07:08 · answer #9 · answered by alodia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink alot. If that don't work, drown yourself with pig poop.
2006-07-27 16:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋