Why choose cohabitation over marriage?

Question

God instituted marriage with Adam and Eve. They didn't go up to the courthouse and get married...they got married in the eyes of God. God in His word tells us it is better to marry than to burn (in our lust) (see Paul for details). Why do many Christians believe cohabitation is better than marriage, when God is clearly against fornication, adultery, etc. and gave us the institution of marriage for a reason.

NO, a preacher didn't marry Adam and Eve... God did it Himself.

Answer 1

They are ignorant to the christian laws regarding marriage.
It's a shame isn't it.
They go to church and the pastor does not have the umph to tell them, (for the benefit) they are sinning, because he doesn't want to chance losing their 10 percent givings.

Answer 2

Marriage is an important institution. The act involves going before God and promising to remain loyal to another individual for the rest of your life. That's quite a step. This promise is made to God, your partner, your friends, your family, and yourself. To break that off is to break a promise with God. Is there any greater fault?

Cohabitation allows for a "test-run" in that you're able to learn more about this other person. You're able to know if the fact that your partner has to have the toilet roll go the other way and it bothers you. Or your partner has horrible cleaning skills. These, and the myriad other possibilities that can annoy and cause tension between a couple, are found during this cohabitation.

Yes, lust, fornication, and adultery are looked down upon. But, these are minor in comparison to the breaking of a promise you made to God, yourself, your partner, and the world. Also, let us look at the bible. Who married Adam and Eve? Was it truly instituted at that time?

In the end, I think marriage deserves such regard that people should not flippantly enter into it. Cohabitation is a step on the road to marriage. While it is not for everyone, it does help many decide whether it is possible to spend the rest of their lives with this other person. I want to find that out before I make a promise to God.

Answer 3

could God have maybe meant that marriage is an agreement between two people to love each other and that cohabitation is an agreement between two people to love each other. i mean technically Adam and eve were cohabiting because I don't remember god making a priest out of Adams big toe.

Answer 4

Well we can't exactly get married in the eyes of God like Adam and Eve did now can we? Especially since they never existed.

Answer 5

properly, even as cohabitation includes 2 adults and does no longer comprise the start of toddlers then i don't experience the favor to remark one way or yet another. even as toddlers change into in contact then definite, society might want to voice it is opinion becasue even as issues do not fare properly it is society it is anticipated to %. up the aspects. listening to that cohabitation works for this or that couple is ineffective information. What you want is archives comparing both kinds of relationships. which have sturdiness, the tutorial ranges of any toddlers produced alongside with different signals of their fulfillment and their potential to verify their own self identity in a subculture that holds marriage because the "norm." definite cases change yet toddlers might want to no longer be made to conflict through to although degree we are able to circumvent their suffering in a free society alongside with ours. you should analyze what rights a wedding ceremony license substances those who participate in marriage and view that to the rights of those who prepare cohabitation. What are the legal ramifications if cohabitation does no longer artwork out for the mum and father? What recourse is there for cohabiting mom and father as modern guidelines heavily opt for married persons?

Answer 6

Adam and Eve got married in the eyes of God, but how, exactly did they do that? In some cultures, there is no "wedding ceremony". Marriage occurs when the concerned parties consumate their relationship. Who are you to judge other people and their relatonships.

Answer 7

Christians who believe in cohabitation are being deceived by Satan. Sociologists have already proven that Marriages are much more likely to break up if the couple cohabited first and children are more likely to be abused in a cohabit situation. So what's the excuse for it?

Answer 8

OK, they "got married in the eyes of God". Who are you to say that a couple that hasn't been formally married are any less commited to each other. Didn't see any preacher marrying Adam and Eve.

Answer 9

Wellll....after 10 years of living together, a man and a woman (unrelated of course, unless you're in Arkansas) are considered married by common law.

And not to state the obvious, but not everyone reads the Bible or believes that God is so picky about these things.

Answer 10

Karen Armstrong addresses not your question but the overall mindset:

http://www.salon.com/books/int/2006/05/30/armstrong/print.html

"Sometimes, I think the way monotheists talk about God is unreligious. People will say God loves that, God wills that, and God despises the other. And very often, the opinions of the deity are made to coincide exactly with those of the speaker. I think God is often used by religious people to give egotism a sacred seal of divine approval, rather than to take you beyond the ego."

Answer 11

Simply put...

Who defines in the eyes of God?

The laws of God are higher than the laws of man. I do not need any peice of paper (signed by a corrupt hand) to tell me that I can love and live with someone I am spending the rest of my life with..