impotent after we are married until I figure out a plan?
2006-07-27 15:27:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont say anything just let him keep makin those deposits
2006-07-27 15:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
That is the most dispicable thing I've heard of. BE HONEST with him. Tell him the truth now and you won't have to live a lie. If he loves you it won't matter. Unless of course, you are afraid he doesn't really love you? What do you think would happen if you let him think he's infertile and he goes out and has an affair and gets the woman pregnant? He might think it's safe to cheat and he won't get caught like that especially if you start having marital problems over the fertility issues.
Your true character is coming out in your questions. You do not deserve this guy. He's too good for you and hopefully he'll figure that out for himself.
2006-07-27 22:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just tell him the truth. If the only reason you and he are getting married is to have children.. then where is the love? You can always adopt some of those children who needs parents. I would say if he doesnt want to marry you on the only reason that you are infertile.. then you two dont need to be married. Please dont try to play games with him. In the long run... what will this lie get you???? Good luck.
2006-07-27 22:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in no way what so ever should make him think he is the one. That would be so wrong of you to make him think it is his fault while knowing it is really yours. Confront him. He loves you and will not judge you, tell him the truth and you two can work something out together. When he knows the truth he will be able to support you along the way. There is always adoption for people who are infertile and even some treatments. DO NOT make him think it is him, allow him to help you and give you the support you need.
2006-07-27 22:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by mamimi_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmm
I think you should be honest with him.
If he loves you it wont matter, if you love him he deserves the truth.
He shouldnt be marrying you just for kids.
If you both are determind to have children, lying about your infertility and blaming him could delay methods or assisted fertility.
Worse scenario he may go out and prove he is not infertile!
Honest truely is the best policy.
2006-07-27 22:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you insane?
If you want to stay married to this person to begin with - then the best plan is the truth - NOW. You can't play around with something like this, it's his life too and he needs to know.
This is not a soap opera where you can fake being pregnant and then mess with the lab test....
2006-07-27 22:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to make him think that? I agree with freeze, if he really loves you, then he would accept you for who you are no matter what. There are a lot of ways to conceive a baby artificially nowadays. Just keep an open mind. He's your boyfriend by the way, so you of all people should know in what manner to break it to him.
2006-07-27 22:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by chicoy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? Tell him before you get married! If he loves you it won't matter. My Uncle married a woman who was infertile. If you trick him now it will hurt later down the road. Just tell him the truth.
2006-07-27 22:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by freeze_guy_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you even THINK that starting a marriage with a lie like that is going to work out in the long run!! Either tell him now, or call off the wedding. I'm not normally prone to violence, but if you did something like that to me, I'd slap the s**t out of you!!
2006-07-27 22:34:18 · answer #9 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him now. You can tell him that even though you can't have biological children there is always the option of adoption. If you lie to him about this and he finds out, he will surely leave you, this is more than a little white lie.
2006-07-27 22:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lying to him is not the answer. If you lie to him, then tell him the truth once married, he will seriously question the relationship, moreso than he would if you told him now. If he loves you, he will still love you when you tell him.
There are other ways to raise children in a relationship.
2006-07-27 22:37:15 · answer #11 · answered by Steven W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋