I'm actually quite serious about this, I've read and was actually told this by my own mother, some time ago, that "they're not ready to date, they show no interest in it whatsoever" Now I can vouch for myself on this, when I was 15, 16, I was interested in dating, but wasnt allowed. Basically for that reason, I was told I'm not ready, and I don't have any interest in it.
So basically what I'm asking is how do you really know your kids are interested in dating or not, because my mother sure didn't know.
2006-07-27 15:08:08 · 11 answers · asked by Hawk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I should probably add since I know I'll get this question, and if you havent caught the any other questions i've posted.........
I'm 18 going to be 19 in a few months. and I confronted my mother about dating about 5-6 months before i turned 18.
2006-07-27 15:10:02 · update #1
should have said this too, i am allowed to date, it was when i confronted her, but the question was a more in general, but thank you so far for the answers.
2006-07-27 15:23:50 · update #2
My rule was...no dating until you're 16...however, you are allowed to go with friends as a group...or with me chaperoning.
My daughter did lots of group "dates", and was perfectly happy. As an adult, she tells me I did her a favor because she never felt pressured by some guy when she was too young to stand up for herself.
So, the real answer is...I didn't care if she was ready to date at 11...it wasn't happening until I felt she was able to handle it. I will also tell you she didn't get to drive at 16....I made her drive on a permit until she was 18. At which point she got her license. Just because you CAN do something, or WANT to, doesn't mean you should.
One of the few joys of parenthood is torturing your child by coming up with obscure and unfair rules...trust me.
2006-07-27 15:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically my mom told me when I was 13 I could date although I am 16 and still aren't dating. Since i am still in school and I see how relationships work through my friends I would say 13 is to young. No highschool relation works out [only a few] for your question i would say when they are mature enough to handle it. By 15 I would allow it, but it depends on how healthy friendships of the person works out, because if the person has good friendship management skills then they will have good dating skills...usually
2006-07-27 15:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kiddo, you are definitely old enough to start dating. You're an adult now! Anyway, today most kids "date" in groups. I think that's great and have no problem with my kids going out beginning at the age of 16 (as long as their grades are good, they make curfew, and are trustworthy). In the old days (my days, ha!) many of my friends were getting married right out of high school so dating and going steady was a big deal when you were a teen. It's not necessary to be in a serious relationship during the teens years anymore. And it's a lot more fun to hang out with your friends anyway. But at 18 - you are definitely old enough to date!
2006-07-27 15:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your mom think you are ready? Legally you are 18 you don't have to seek her permission to go on a date. Unless that is the rule of the house and since you are staying with her you have to abide by those rules. I would be very curious to know why she is so over protective.
But as a parent before I would let my child date I would be very open with them and let them know everything that comes with relationships heartache,sex,breakups, etc........
And then together we would make a choice unless like you they were over 18 then they could do what they wish
2006-07-27 15:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a two-edge sword... It could be fun and heart breaking at the same time. Can you control your sexual desires? Do you understand the devastating consequences of an unwanted pregnancy? Can you say No! in no uncertain terms? If the answer is yes to all of the above...maybe you are ready.
2006-07-27 15:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is only 11 so my first thought is when she grows up and moves out. I guess the more realistic answer is do you trust her to make mature decisions in a dating situation? If so then she is ready. Good luck.
2006-07-27 15:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by frogspeaceflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be open and honest with your children no matter what the subject is. This way your child feel comfortable talking to you and they can tell you and ask you questions!
2006-07-27 15:17:11 · answer #8 · answered by Carleyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're married and have moved out of the house.
kidding. actually, i don't know. my son is going into the 6th grade, and he's not ready yet.
2006-07-27 15:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by k m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a good ?. i kno some ppl who started dating when they were 13.
2006-07-27 15:23:54 · answer #10 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋