Women only: Dating question?

Question

What are the most important things you want to learn about a man on the first date?

What do you want to find out?

Answer 1

I Want To Find Out What Kind Of Guy He Is Inside And Out...i Don't Want To Be Fooled Into Liking Someone That Is Just After Money Or Other Things...I Want To Learn His True Personality..I Want To Know By Looking Into His Eyes That He Would Be There For Me If We Worked Out And Continued To Date...i Would Want To Know That He Would Not Only Laugh With Me, But Also Cry With Me If Need Be... I Would Need To Learn A Lot About His Personality So I Could Predict Our Compatability....And Most Of All i Would Want To Know That He Is SIncere In What He Says...

Answer 2

The first date is basically a time of "do we get along." Really I don't believe there are any off limit questions for this important time. However, really it is more a question of "do we have anything in common, do our personality types go together." After all looks might be why we go out with someone in the first place but just because someone is cute doesn't mean we like them.

All woman are looking for different things in the men they are dating and they want it to go to different places (marriage verses casual dating and so forth.) Of course these are questions that don't usually come up on the first date but sometimes a woman can "see" the type of relationship you are offering and it just might not be what they are looking for (at the time.)

Therefore, to cut this off without writing a book, you asked a question that can't really be answered. Relaxing having a good time and finding out if you get along is the first step.

Answer 3

His sense of humor and what makes him laugh. That's a big thing for me. If I'm laughing, then I'm having fun. How nervous I make him. I'm a person, just like him, and I have my flaws. If he gets all nervous and tries too hard, then I dont' know who he is and am turned off by the fake-ness. And then how he treats other people. Like if we're out to dinner, how he treats our waiter/waitress. If he treats them respectfully, I'll see that he'll treat me respectfully, but if a short-fused temper comes out at all during the date, it's a turn-off. I've dated enough angry men. I don't need another on the list. But yeah, I just want to know the true you and from there I'll see how compatible we are. That's what I hope a guy is doing when he's on a first date with me.

Answer 4

Women really don't want to know "too much" on the first date. They want to know that the man is interested in them, maybe a little about the man's family. In fact, the relationship that the man has with his family really will dictate how he will treat the woman. She does not want to know if you've been in jail, or about any of your crazy "guy" antics with your friends, unless she asks point blank. Keep it simple at first, talk about school, work, family, that would be safe. Then, when you start to get closer you can begin reveal little snippets about the "controversial" things.

Answer 5

Well, I'd prefer to know right off if he's a total jerk or not.

I can tell you what I don't want to learn about a man on the first date...:
1. I don't want to know about his ex-.
2. I don't want to know how many women he slept with/banged/screwed/whatever.
3. I really DON'T want to listen to him whine. We don't know each other well enough for that yet.
4. I have no interest in hearing/seeing/smelling anything to do with his bodily functions.
5. I don't want to be his therapist or his mommy...especially on the first date.
6. I don't want to sleep with him.

Answer 6

The first date should be very casual. Nothin to deep. I want to know if we can spend time together and have fun without doin anything special. I want to know if we click and i want him to tell me if he thinks so. Some guys keep so much to themselves that you cant even tell how he feels about you. I want to know if he is man enough to make the first move. Girls dont like having to ask guys out, lean in for the first kiss, or always have to be the one to call. But none of the should be discused it should be shown.

Answer 7

His perspective on life. Whether he's a player who just want "some" or what are his longterm goals i.e. will he eventually settle down but also the first date is usually just having fun...getting to know each other but I am also a very observant person, also looking at the non-verbal so that will determine whether this is it or will we have alot more "dates".

Answer 8

I have never gone out on a first date without first having a good idea or "knowing" the man first. I think honesty, kindness, and respect are the base line deal breakers though, from that point, sense of humor, intelligence, charm...

Answer 9

I immediately gage how real or fake he is, if he's comfortable with himself, and the ease of conversation between us. I watch how he treats waiters/cashiers/cabbies/etc. to see if he's a people person or a big jerk, and I also watch how he eats if it's a dinner date, because table manners tell me a lot about just how well a guy has been brought up and how I can expect him to act in other situations.

Answer 10

The first thing I want to know is if he is really single. It's also nice to find out if he lives alone or not, where he works, and what kind of car he drives. I also like to know where he is going in life.