Friend in trouble! Crazy ex wants too much! Your opinion please?

Question

ok, this one is a doozy!
I have a dear friend who lived with a woman for about 2 years. they had a baby together. then she moved out after months of hellatious fights and violence on her behalf. there are other children involved. she has a son 9 years old. he has a daughter 12 years old. these children had to live through this mess too. the ex has outright accused him of sleeping with his daughter, which is completely unfounded!
now she wants him to pay child support and have no contact with the baby. PLUS she's pregnant again!
she's put him in the hospital twice already with anxiety attacks and pectoral angina. his health can't suffer her constant harrassment for money. he's already had to get a restraining order against this woman!
he's planning to relinquish rights to the second baby. I think he should relinquish rights to both since she doesn't want to let him be a part of his sons' lives. why should he have to pay out the nose for children he'll never get to see?

this is not MY situation! don't attack me! i'm asking this question in proxy for my friend. i'm asking for sincere, thought out answers. anybody that "plays for points" or "trolls" here will be reported!

Answer 1

You speak of a 2 year live-in ENTANGLEMENT that your friend had with a woman who, as it turned out, uses her children to control the men in her life. If the 9 year old son is hers, by another man, the 12 year old daughter is his-by a different woman, and now the ex has had a baby by your friend and she is pregnant again?
Your friend needs to confirm his DNA paternity for the two infants this woman is threatening to deny him the rights to see before he agrees to pay anything. He needs to take care of the daughter whom he knows is his own flesh and blood and get as far away from that psycho ex as he can afford to move. Of course, you realize that your friend did not get himself into that situation alone. It sounds like he will need a good lawyer to insure that this woman will not take him to the cleaners for child support. He should have seen that coming and used abstinence or a condom with a woman who was not his WIFE. Marriage would have assured him the visitation and possibly, the custody rights to his own offspring. Now, she has the upper hand in this free-for-all.

Answer 2

Personally I think he should try to get the kids from her and make her pay child support. He's got proof of her violence and the older children's testimony, police records etc. She sounds like a real psycho and a user (of people). Her behavior can mean she is proven to be an unfit mother. At the very least he can turn on her and play the same stupid games she is playing and accuse her of molesting the child, and abusing the children. He needs a good lawyer.

Answer 3

Ok, this is what he should do. If he's been hospital, there will be records of his visits and the medical treatment. He needs a copy of these and he should go to the police and a lawyer and get custody of his child and if he's a brillent man get custody of the other teo children.. She is an unfit mother who should not be incharge with those children...It will be fight but if he has all his evidence then he will be able to have custody of his child.

I don't think he should relinquish his rights to the child, he needs to protect him and the unborn child.

She's a Psycho B*tch.

Answer 4

IF the woman is as crazy and abusive as you say she is, then he should tell her that he's going to fight for custody of his sons. Boys need their fathers. They need a male role model and not a screaming domineering mother.
At the very least, if he pays child support then he will automatically have visitation rights unless she can prove his is an unfit parent. He needs to stay in the childrens' lives for their sake. It may be difficult, but they need him as much as they need her, maybe more.
He needs to consult a lawyer asap.

Answer 5

If he is relinquishing rights for one, he should do it for both. How will the baby feel when it is a teen and his brother still technically has a father and he doesn't...
But if he wants to fight for rights, he should...too many dads just give up before they try. This is why the system is still so stacked against the dads of the world...it doesn't get challenged enough to change its ways.
But if he is ill and doesn't want to try...he has to do both or neither in my opinion.
Good luck to him tho...

Answer 6

ok before each and every thing, you do not understand for particular that the fights were from "abuse on her behalf". It takes 2 to wrestle, and if he wasn't scuffling with decrease back in any respect it ought to've gotten pretty uninteresting and he or she probable ought to've stopped all of her "abuse". 2d of all, you do not understand if he has slept at the same time with his daughter or no longer so enable's no longer assume you recognize no matter if he has or no longer. third of all, he has placed HIMSELF contained in the well being facility by allowing this lady to break him the way she has. he's in charge of his own psychological state. If he needs to play "undesirable me" then he can (he for sure has been for a lengthy time period), yet he's a dad and he needs to augment up - it is previous time. If he is going to relinquish rights and he or she's so "abusive" then he for sure would not care about the youngster. it is truly unhappy. He might want to've been somewhat smarter and under no circumstances gotten her pregnant. He did it no longer purely once, yet two times. it is organic stupidity. Why ought to you imagine he might want to relinquish rights to both toddlers if this mom is so abusive? You for sure are not a figure and if you're, you should no longer probable be a good one.. wanting a "solid man or woman" (as you describe him) to provide up rights to somewhat one to a lady who's "abusive". unhappy, unhappy, unhappy!