she cant understand me...i wanna hang out and she doesnt allow me...and im not a ******* little child
2006-07-27 14:32:40 · 9 answers · asked by babinxd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i just wanna have fun...and if tell her where im ****** going she wont let me go cuz shes a ****** ***** and a ****** homofobic lol she wanns change me..and she does not understand that wat i love is not what she expected me to love
2006-07-27 14:41:57 · update #1
Talk to your mom, let her know your issues and address her concerns. Do it maturely. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-07-27 14:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that your mother isn't trying to be mean to you. She's showing you anger but really, she's scared for you. She's scared about what your lifestyle will cause you to have to deal with in your future. She wants the best for you and wants to protect you and keep you safe. You will always be her child. It sounds like she really doesn't know how to express her feelings and neither do you.
As a mother I can tell you that I want to give my child every advantage and want to help steer her in a direction that will give her success in life. Since I've been her age before, I have some experience which could prove valuable in helping her avoid some serious pitfalls in life.
Try asking her to go have lunch with you somewhere. Choose a place where you can talk but that is a public place such as a restaurant so that you two will have to behave civilly towards each other. Treat her with respect and tell her you understand her concerns but that you feel you need more freedom. Perhaps you can agree to go speak to a counselor about it together to help her understand where you are coming from. You need your mom. She will always be the one person who will never stop loving you, even if you two are angry with each other temporarily. Try working things out with her so that you two can come to some sort of compromise about your freedom and how much she will allow you to do. A compromise is better than nothing. If you treat her with respect, she'll be more open to compromise, if not immediately, eventually she'll see that she can trust you not to engage in things that could get you into trouble.
2006-07-27 14:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are so that makes it hard to respond. As a mother and a grandmother, your age would be very helpful in answering.
And depending on your age would be how much "hanging" out I would allow.
And where you are wanting to hang out.
Also it would depend on your maturity level, how much you have gotten into trouble in the past, how responsible you are....etc.
And I can tell you from experience that another factor would be in how much respect that you show your parents.
***After reading your additional comments young lady, I really dont blame your parents for not wanting you to just hand out. You sound like you have no respect for your mother or any other adult figure. You have to show your mother that you are mature enough and responsible enough for her to trust in you and in your behavior..........And you do not sound like you have that level of maturity.
Im sure you have heard the old saying...............Act like a child and get treated like a child?
2006-07-27 14:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead, run, screw up your life, do all those things you want to do because "EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING IT" - be a FOLLOWER instead of a leader, (If everyone else ate cow **** would you?)
Your Mom is the only one who cares, and you are too blind to see that. You're a BIG girl now, so get a job, pay your own bills, get your own place, cook your own meals, join the service. Little girls stay home until they are 18, BIG girls support themselves. GO!!! What you need help packing?
2006-07-27 14:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one day you will see she is right
she doesnt want you to hang out becasue she doesnt want you to end up being a loser like the rest of the people that just hang out... they waste their life away just hanging out... (i am guessing you mean hanging out at malls and all)
you are better than that and cooler than that just to stand around 'trying' to be cool
i guarantee you in a few years time you will have done something fantastic with your life instead of wasting your time doing nothing
but if it means that much to you maybe start acting more responsibly around the house ... doing things without asking and all .... she might give you a bit more freedom... but you have to fulfill your share or the bargain!
good luck
2006-07-27 14:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you are a whiney-behiney kid...what do you know? You're so lucky you have a mom who will try to protect you from yourself. She's doing her job. God Bless Her! I feel sorry for you for your lack of disrespect. One of these days when you don't have a mother any longer, you'll be sorry you talked about her that way. GROW UP!
2006-07-27 15:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and respect her, she will be the only one for you to call on when the ones you hang out with get you into trouble............
2006-07-27 14:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by SweetT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove to your mother that you are mature and responsible and maybe things will change.
2006-07-27 14:37:38 · answer #8 · answered by carl l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up and respect your mom.... no matter what... sounds like you are the one with the problem
2006-07-27 15:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by obxguy2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋