Okay I am having problems!!! I met this girl and we both knew that the other liked us and even admitted it. She had a bf (I didn't know this). So we go to the movies that Friday, go to Olive Garden to eat, and to Paramount Carowinds. She broke up with her bf before we went to Carowinds. This is all within 1 month. Now recently I can call her at the right time to talk. She's either busy and tells me to call back later, or I leave a message for her to call and she doesn't. I don't know what to do. I havent actually talked to her in about a week, and I haven't called her in four or five days. Normally I would let it go, but this is different. There is no sexual attraction, she looks gorgeous but I don't have sex related thoughts. For any girls what is your opinion onw hat she is thinking and what would you want your guy to do in this situation? Please help. Oh and guys feel free to answer.
2006-07-27 14:24:39 · 12 answers · asked by brian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would deff. call her. i know if i was her i would want the guy to call me. she is prob waiting for u to call her. hopefully things work out.
2006-07-27 14:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by laurfoshoxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she liked you, she'd talk to you. It's that simple. She's making excuses for not talking to you, and she's not suggesting when you can actually get in contact with her, so you need to move on. I know that sounds too simple, but it's really that easy. If you keep calling, you'll find that it's just a big waste of time. The reason for this is that she does not have the nerve to tell you that she doesn't like you. Nevermind what she says, just pay attention to what she does. If she liked you, she'd help you out. Good luck with the next girl!
Edit: Oh, yes . . . one more thing: this girl is NOT grieving over her breakup. When girls break up with their bf's, they are over the breakup by the time they actually break up. So she's not isolating herself from you because she's still getting over the trauma of her breakup, but rather because she does not like you and she does not have the nerve to tell you. Girls don't like to hurt our feelings (it makes them feel like they're being mean), but it would be much better for them to just come out with the truth rather than letting men figure out that they don't share the same feelings. Anyway, good luck with the next one!
2006-07-27 21:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she cheated on her bf once what makes u think she wouldn't cheat on u if i were u i would get out of that relationship at once think how would it be when u r always wondering where she is & who she is with even if she didn't mess around doupt will kill u every time she's out of ur sight it would be really hard & it will affect ur relationship but if u really like her call her she might be waiting 4 u to call her so try to reach her one more time if she ignores u again then u must leave her if she actually talked to u well hang in there & see were it goes but be carefull
p.s. BE CAREFULL
2006-07-27 21:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she feel nervous around you when you went to the movies and out to eat and stuff? Maybe she is just nervous. Well, if I was her, I wouldn't be rude in the first place like that. But I would want my guy to not just give up- especially if we really liked each other.
2006-07-27 21:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be interested in you. Maybe she got back with her ex and doesn't know how to tell you. Could be that she had been sick...in other words the answer to your question could have many answers. The only real answer will be the one you get from her. That's the only one that counts anyway.
2006-07-27 21:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my thoughts are... a month, if i got that right, is not a long time... even if she wasn't feeling him at the time. girls don't want to feel like tramps going from one guy to the next... shes probably contemplating what she should do... you should leave it up to her... tell her or leave her a message saying that, if she would like to be friends still or more call... and if not, still call because you would like to know. i'd like my guy to tell me that he cares, but he doens't want to push, your there if she needs to talk about anything at all.
2006-07-27 21:33:57 · answer #6 · answered by emcjensen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS A CHEAT! she cheated on her b/f with u.. and she is doing the same to u! once a cheat ALWAYS A CHEAT! ur too nice a guy... u deserve better... give her a final call saying that ur done... and thats it.. wipe ur hands clean of this mess!
2006-07-27 21:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by Bugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want my guy to keep trying. But I figure it's better to have a guy like me for me not just for sex. She must have liked you if she broke up with her bf so don't give up.
2006-07-27 21:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the point in wasting time with her if you are not attracted to her? I see no reason to even pursue this. Just forget about her and look for some one you are attracted to. I dated someone I wasn't sexually attracted to and it was a waste of my time and his. Please do yourself a favor and move on.
2006-07-27 21:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Carleyheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a cheater once a cheater always a cheater....maybe you really deep down are not interested in her...
2006-07-27 21:29:41 · answer #10 · answered by Livingdeadgirl84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋