This question is for any step-parents out there. I was wondering if you love your step kids, as much as you love your own kids? Also, do you treat them the same?
2006-07-27 14:21:17 · 11 answers · asked by Jade 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes I love my step son as much as my other 2. He was my "first" kid and I treat them all the same of course he thinks I don't because our 3 year old gets away with things he doesn't but he is almost 10 and he got away with the same stuff when he was younger. But yes I love them all the same.
And I was a step child and my step mom treated me and my sister like crap we were always doing the cleaning and cooking and were never able to have friends over. I had 3 step brothers and when we went clothes shopping the boys would go to Nike and Champs and all those nice stores we would go to KMart. We didn't care till we got older because we didn't know the difference but when we look back we get pissed off. I don't want my step son to ever feel that way.
2006-07-27 15:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I grew up with step parents............my step-dad is my dad and I have always felt that way, he loved me and treated me with the same understanding and respect he did his sons my step-mom I never really knew because I had no relationship with my dad. I believe all step-parents want to love the kids but sometimes the kids make it hard for that to happen. I respect my step-kids and their relationship with their father however we don't have a relationship because they don't want anyone else in dad's life. When they are here they are treated the same as my children are. My husband on the other hand has just as close of a relationship with my kids as he does his so I guess I would say a lot of that would depend on the kids.
2006-07-27 16:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a step-father to my eldest and second. He don't treat them the same like his own son 19 mnth. I feel bad sometimes for my other two. I tried to tell my husband that he need to love them the same, but he said, he can't do that because they're not their own kids. I never complain again after that but I'll make sure that my other two didn.t notice that. If I am the step-mom, I'm sure I'll love them the same because I know how it look like.
2006-07-27 15:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a step-parent but I am a step-child. My step-dad had two kids and two-step kids.[my sister and I] He treated us all the same, and loved us the same too. I was 6 and my sister 10 when he moved in with us. My dad was never around so my step-dad was really my dad. [and thats how i saw it] he didn't let me call him dad though because he said he didn't want to replace my biological father, and yet my sister and I were considered his kids, and he treated/loved us just like his biological too!
2006-07-27 14:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a step parent but we adopted our daughter when she was 9 years old. We also have a biologial son. I do love them both but the feeling is definitely very different. I feel that my love for my daughter requires much more effort and is more conditional than that for my son. It doesn't help that she is now a know-it-all 12 year old. Just as that bond started to form, she got hormonal.
I'm assuming I will treat them the same. It is hard to say right now because there is a 10 year age difference. A 12 year old is handled much differently than a 2 year old. I hope I'll treat my son the same as I do her now.
2006-07-27 14:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I treat my step boys the same, I just don't feel the same closeness and love I would feel for my own child. They don't live with us and I see them maybe once a month.
2006-07-27 15:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 03:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 9-year-old stepson and I love him just the same as I love my own child. I met my stepson when he was 4 so he's been a big part of my life for 5 years now. We had rough spots for the first 6-7 months or so because of course he wanted his mommy and daddy to still be together but we got through it. I definitely try to treat both of them the same. And my stepson loves to play with his little brother! They are so cute together.
2006-07-28 03:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My kids are all grown and moved away. The one who isn't mine by blood is closer to me now than the three who are. I guess I treated him OK. He was the happiest one growing up and the wildest one as a teen. Now that he's an adult were the best of friends.
2006-07-27 14:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were to ever get married to a man with children, I would not love his children; They're just not my own. I will adopt children in the future, and obviously they're not "my own", but that's different...They become "my own" because I get to raise them and love them, as opposed to meeting them when they are bit older and not having a special bond with them. Also, Step children tend to not like their step parents no matter how nice the step parents our. I just don't see it working out. So the answer is no, I would not love them.
2006-07-27 16:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Stella 4 · 2⤊ 7⤋