Is anybody an only child or only has one child?

Question

Is anybody here an only child, or only has one child, and is planning to keep it that way? How do you think your family size has affected you/your child?

I'm asking, because as I have had a previous miscarriage, and quite a few troubles with this pregnancy, and I am scared to have another baby after this one.

Answer 1

I have a 3yr old daughter and I am planning to leave it at that. Partially for the fact that I cannot bare dealing with anymore childcare issues. If I could stay at home and raise them, no problem, but the way this world is going I think its better to have one and focus completely on them.

Answer 2

I am not an only child, I have a sister that I grew up with (and about 5 other sisters I have never met and one deceased brother I will never meet) and I loved having a sister. I wish we were closer in age though then we might have been closer period. I have only one child and I had a VERY difficult pregnancy (cramps so bad I doubled over and morning sickness until 5 months and Braxton Hicks Contractions that my doctor called real contractions starting at 6 months, I also rode a bike until I was 39 weeks pregnant and had NO HELP at work from co workers). We are planning a second child and I am scared that I will have to go through that again, but I want my child to have a little brother or sister. I think that is what is best for her!

Answer 3

I'm not an only child I have a twin sister, But I am a Mother of One and I don't plan on having any more kids. I also had a very rough pregnancy and I don't want to go through that again or even risk it. I enjoy my time with my son and I have come to terms with the fact that he will be the only child. My husband is very understanding on how I feel about not wanting anymore kids and we are happy with just the three of us. It my mother that doesn't understand she thinks that I'm being selfish and that ever pregnancy is different. So I guess just go with what your heart tells you and hope that everyone supports you in everything you decide to do. It's normal to be scared, I was but things ended up fine and I have a wonderful little boy. Good Luck and Best wishes to you and your little one.

Answer 4

I have just one child and am not sure about having another. I have a 2 year old boy who keeps me busy. I am an older mom, and age is a consideration for me to get pregnant again. Also, financially, it would be more difficult with 2. Right now, I only need to work part time. I have been very blessed. My son does demand lots of attention. A sibling may help entertain him, or they may fight alot. We have just been able to go away for a night or 2 and leave him with grandparents. With one child, that child gets all the attention. On the downside, the child will be alone to deal with things when you pass on. Do what is right for you. If you want another child without being pregnant, you may want to adopt.

Answer 5

i am both. i was raised from when i was 1-9 as an only child then moved back with my mom who had had 5 more kids when i was 9-16. i loved both lives although being an only child can be kinda lonely and being one of 6 can be very crowded and annoying. there are so many good and bad things about being in both situations that i cant really say one was better than the other. i dont think you or your child will be terribly affected if you only have one offspring. it is most likely better for you to only have one if your pregnancies are troublesome.

Answer 6

I have one adopted child and no guarantee of another, so I often consider what it might be like to have only the one. My main concern at this stage (preschool) is that she is so used to getting lots of attention and she might have a bit harder time in school or elsewhere when she finds out teachers or whoever are not only going to focus on her. Otherwise, I think kids can do all right as only children if they are taught good discipline and appropriate behavior by their parents. Whether you have only one or several, just do your best!

Answer 7

depends on how you allow your child to grow up, but i've came to the conclusion that only children are more spoiled, snottier, and just plan old more bitchy. i have one child right now. hes 19 months old. i plan on having more children when the time is right. plus i gotta find me a husband first :). and i have no idea how having a miscarriege would feel like, but to your baby right now. imagine when he or she is older how much the child will appreciate all you have went threw to give her/him life. life is a precious gift. if you would like more than one child you could always adopt. there are plenty of children out there that need good moms and dads. or you could become a foster parent.

i have an older sister and a younger brother. i may have hated them growing up, but i love it now. your not alone. and always have someone there.

Answer 8

I think your child will be fine if you only have one. I have one, but I'm planning on having another soon. My fear is the attention I'll miss out on giving my son, sometimes it gets to me enough to consider not having any more. You'll figure it out, and as far as having company goes, set up play dates.

Answer 9

I have a daughter that is 19 months old. I think she will be the only one i have. I just think for us that is perfect. We have some friends and family that have little ones. So i make sure she gets to play alot with them.

Answer 10

My mom is an only child and turned our just fine :) And if you only have onle child then you can affor to give them more (no matter how much money you have)..im preg with my first and i dont know if i want 2 children.

btw you need to think of your health first....
if you have one healthy baby just count him/her as a blessing.