I broke up with a guy two weeks ago. He asked me out for a year, now says he never wants to talk. Will he call

Question

We had a huge fight. We both yelled, and swore. He grabbed me. I was always saying I need to back off, and he was always crying no. He said right after we broke up that he loved me still but never wanted to be with me because I changed to much. He doesn't answer my calls and said he doesn't want to hear from me ever again. I have now stopped contact...I still love him, and realize many of my mistakes but he wont even listen to that....will he call me again? What should I do? He was after me for a year before I would even go out with him. I never believed he really loved me, and I was afraid. I just want him to know how much he means to me, and that I really do want to be with him. I said somethings during our fight that were just mean. My heart is broken. I have never wanted to be this close to someone....do I walk away...will he walk away or does he just need time? Does he still have feelings. Or can he be over me in two weeks? Does he really hate me...and never want to talk

Answer 1

I will tell you what it all sounds like to me. It sounds like he won the chase and now doesn't want the prize - very common with guys. The chase is always more exciting than the catch.
My suggestion to you would be to let this fish go because first of all if he grabbed you then that is a BIG red flag! Next time it would be worse and it would only continue to get worse. If he is capable of doing that at this point then who knows what he would do if he really got angry.
You do NOT deserve to be treated like that and if you turn it around and think to yourself that YOU never want to talk to HIM again then you'll be ok. Take control...don't give it up. There are too many wonderful people out there and Life is way to short for drama so don't slight yourself - you deserve better. Best to you.

Answer 2

Hmm... let me think..

I'm sure when people fight they say things they don't mean. Why did you break up with him in the first place? What was the fight about? Maybe just focus on finding a solution to THAT fight, and not make it about everything else. Tell him you're sorry (if you feel it was your fault for the fight) and ask him what it is you can do to resolve the "problem.") But if he feels you've changed a lot, then it's tough to say because personalities don't change easily. You are who you are, and you can't just change to please someone. You can try but you'll always revert back. It's one of those things you just can't "fake." I'm sure he's hurt right now, so the best thing you can do is give him space. If he loves you, he'll find a way back. I mean, I'm sure he's still mad at the fight, and people tend to be very stubborn and not give in yet.

Answer 3

You need some time for yourself. Take a break from all of this. Go out with your girlfriends, take a trip, go to the movies, etc. The main point is to keep busy. Maybe he just needs some time to think things over. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe time is what you need. Whatever you do, don't call him. You will just cause him to pull away more. If it was not meant to be, move on. There will be others.

Answer 4

I would think so, unless he's a masochist, why should he go through that again. He found his sanity again, and doesn't want to lose it.
You just have to accept the facts that this time you blew it, and learn from your mistakes.

Answer 5

Give him time to cool down.
He loves you, to the point that he put up with all your attitude.
Don't call him, coz it'll just make him mad and annoyed with you.
Let's just not expect anything from him. Move on. =D

Answer 6

if you love someone let them go, if they come back their yours, if not they never were.
(Forgot who wrote that little piece of wisdom)