When my girlfriend and I first started dating 2 years ago, her ex kept calling her. I kept telling her over and over again that I wasn't cool with it and it made me uncomfortable. She stopped talking to him for about 8 months or so. Then she began talking to him again and hanging out with him. I told her again that I was uncomfortable with it yet she still does talk and hang out with him. She tells me he is a friend. He's not comfortable meeting me. She first told me they had broke up because "he wanted kids", to "he didn't change" then back to "he wanted to get married and have kids but i wasn't ready for it". Thus I'm not 100% sure why they ended it or who ended it. She knows I'm not comfortable with their "friendship" yet she still carries on with it. I haven't been comfortable with it from the start. Our relationship is very healthy only real fights have been over their friendship. Maybe i'm wrong, but shouldn't she stop this out of respect for me?
2006-07-27 13:41:29 · 14 answers · asked by mike! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same problem with my last relationship that lasted 3 years and no matter how much I told girlfriend that it bothered me for her to talk to and see her ex, who still seemed pretty interested in her, she wouldn't stop. Your feelings should be the most important thing to your girlfriend, and if you're that uncomfortable with it and he won't even meet you so that you could all hang out together then she should definitely stop. Don't back down on this because your girlfriend needs to put you first.
2006-07-27 13:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by philsoc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong!!! I see nothing wrong with ex's becoming friends and being involved in the new couples life. But, that's not what is happening. He doesn't want to meet you .... That's a HUGE sign that something is not right! If your girlfriend were telling the truth then she would insist that he meet you so that you wouldn't have any doubts as to their relationship. I'm sorry this is happening to you. I wish there were a way I could change your situation but, it looks like you have to be the one to change it. I hope no one hurts too deeply, especially you. Good luck and God bless!
2006-07-27 13:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems very odd that she can't tell you why she and her ex broke up, and that she continues to hang out w/ him even though you've told her it makes you uncomfortable. Of course, she may think you're a controlling bastard. Why don't you tell her that you'd be a lot more comfortable w/ them hanging out if all three of you could hang out together once? I'm sure if you saw that they are really just friends, you'd be cool with it. And if not? You'll figure it out.
2006-07-27 13:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some times relationships do turn into friendships but it sounds like you have asked multiple times for her to not hang out with her ex so i think she should respect you for that because it sounds like shes respecting her ex more than you right now, but just be patient and really look her in the eye when you say your uncomfortable with it because if my boyfriend was hanging out with his ex girlfriend i would feel a little bit uneasy about it since if its only the two of them hanging out with nobody else around.
2006-07-27 13:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe she has a right to be friends with whomever she likes but she also needs to respect your feelings. If you had made an effort to express your concerns in a nondefensive, angry, or accusing way and she still won't give in and compromise on the issue then it is time to move on. You need to try to understand her point of view as well. Can she be trusted. do they hang out with others around or is it just her and him alone. These are just a few questions you need to ask yourself to make a decision
2006-07-27 13:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with your girlfriend being friends with ex.
At least you were able to tell her that you're not comfortable with it.
Have you tried asking her if she still likes the guy? Just make sure that she's not giving that much attention to her ex, that'll be fine =D
2006-07-27 13:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by sharkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question was so long and twisted that I have no idea what you are asking.
Best thing to do is to have a conversation with the guy who likes you or whatever. Only way to know what is happening is to come out and ask
2006-07-27 13:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel is though she should've told you in the beiging the truth about why her and her ex broke up oviously she still have feeling for him and wants to have her cake and ice cream to cause a real woman would've been said **** him and be chillin with her real man you feel me
2006-07-27 13:48:32 · answer #8 · answered by Shanita P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. but not all women feel that way. She may only be doing this because she knows you don't want her to. She may feel you don't trust her with other guys. Go to her and ask her if she wants to go back with her ex... remember.. what ever happens is meant to be... and if she wants her ex.. be happy that it ended asap
2006-07-27 13:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Bugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friendship is alright, a friendship that starts to intrude on the relationship however, is -not-.
2006-07-27 13:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by Deleted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋