okay so me and this guy have been friends for alomst 2 years. and he is one of my best friends and the other day he asked me out, he has asked me out 3 times already and i told him that i just wanted to be friends. i kinda like him but not enough to go out with him he has an awesome personality and one of my other guy friends and his other best friends told me that he really really liked me and that he really wanted to go out with me. i am suck in the middle, i told my brother that my best friend asked me out and, me and my brother are really close but he keeps telling me that i should give him a chance. i am scared that if i go out with him that when we break up i won't see him as my best friend anymore and i don't want to lose his friendship cause i really trust him.
can anyone please help me?!!
2006-07-27 13:36:35 · 9 answers · asked by sexylady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh i almost forgot i am 14 and he is 12
2006-07-27 13:42:02 · update #1
he is really sweet but i cant tell if he will make a good boyfriend
2006-07-28 08:53:42 · update #2
You said it yourself.... You don't like him enough to go out with him. Don't do it now. Remain friends and if it is meant to be you'll know. Just give it time and let him know that you want him to remain your friend. If he's a really good close friend he'll understand. Just please don't tell him you don't like him enough to go out with him. That could end the friendship. Best of luck to you!
2006-07-27 13:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! this situation sounds all too familiar.. I am in the same boat.. But me and my guy friend have been friends for 4 years... and i have a crush on him. He knows how i feel about him and he hasnt told me anything. This is what i have come up with. The way i see it is... i know my guy friend loves me.. however.. we can talk about any and everything right now.. BUT.. if we were to have the title of BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND.. he wouldnt be able to tell me anything and everything. Things would be totally different. What you have and your friend have to think about is.. what means more.. haveing this person in your life forever.. or "being in Love" ... I think you should tell him how you feel and let him know that you want him in your life for a long time and that you dont want things to get weird between yall. Because i guarentee that will happen. Things happened between me and my guy friend a couple of weeks ago and i was crushed. Yea i wanted it to happen.. but... i felt used.. taken advantage of. Make him understand that if yall are really meant to be then he needs to wait until the time is right. Tell him if he really loves you then to be there for you as a friend right now.. while yall are growing up so that yall can grow together. And if the feelings are still there down the road.. then its meant to be.. then yall will have grown together.. Dont try to rush things.. Good things Come To Those Who Wait. True love never fades.
2006-07-27 20:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Nora A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to just give it a chance because you might be missing out on something really great. After all, a solid friendship is the base of any good relationship. If this guy is as good of a friend as you say he is and it doesn't work out then you'll still be able to have a friendship with him.
2006-07-27 20:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by philsoc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough... wait a bit longer and stop saying to yourself that you ONLY want to be friends with him. If feelings emerge for him then go for it. If there is enough in your general relationship with him then you should be able to keep up you relationship if and when you break up. Also if you do get in a relationship with him then your already best friends that's one step out of the way.
2006-07-27 20:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by MakeBelieve. All you want. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like a special friendship.. and hey... go out with the guy... at least later down the line you would have n e thing to regret. You will have given it your all. And if it doesn't work out don't worry. if he is a true friend he will be there for you no matter wat. You might find it easier to love him than you thought. Best wishes!
2006-07-27 20:41:14 · answer #5 · answered by Bugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, are you interested in him or not? You menaioned that you "kinda like him, but not enough to go out." So, tell him you're not interested. But stop hanging out with him until he gets over it. Otherwise, he'll take any signs of niceness on your part as indication that you love him.
2006-07-27 20:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should just talk with him, and get your feelings completely out in the open. something similar happened to me, and i never actually went out with him. instead, we just "hung out" a lot. i stopped liking him (i still liked him as a friend tho) but we never actually had to break up. we're still rly good friends.
2006-07-27 20:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by krush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm...ok. well, you should tell him what you told your brother. he might understand
2006-07-27 20:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right. go ahead.
2006-07-27 20:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋