i just dont know what to do anymore.. seems like everything i do is wrong.. i love her but its extremely hard now...what do i do?
2006-07-27 13:33:19 · 10 answers · asked by i_love_orange_crush_05 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
everything... fear of flying out to her... its more like a phobia.. she got mad.
2006-07-27 13:36:50 · update #1
Loving someone else isn't easy. It's like having a job. If this is what the both of you want. Get counseling, communicate above all. But keep at it.
2006-07-27 13:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by vallanita 2 · 26⤊ 6⤋
the problem from what little you gave makes it sound like you two dont talk and she is just looking for a reason to fight with you. there are times when women as well as men dont pick and chose their battles wisely, they complain about what bugs them and when a real issue comes up they complain and becuase you are the one she is complaining about you have had enough of all the small complaints and you have a problem decerning the diffrence between when she really is upset about somthing and when she is just up to the same ole same whining and bit,tching the only thing i would suggest you do isslowly break her arguements down one at a time and play them back to her as she does it and let her know when you do this that you arent trying to be defensive or point her big flaw your just trying make her understand how it hurts and why at times you becomes to her complaints as her to devide up a complaints in to ratings so you can focus in on what she is the maddest at and every time she has a complaint ask her to do it again, but be realistic and dont just allow her to label forgetting to put the seat down as a 10 on her list she has to be wanting to fix the problem or you will have to chose ...... good luck
sorry i didnt look at your gender so i edited my answer to make it more gender friendly ... oooooops my bad
2006-07-27 13:48:05 · answer #2 · answered by joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to ask people who know details to this problems like your friends or her friends. Her friends know a lot about her so your best choice would be to go to them. Also you need to think about all the good things about your relationship with her. If these problems are too bad and you don't enjoy your relationship anymore, you need to think about if you love her enough to stay with her.
2006-07-27 13:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you have already tried this, but you should probably talk to her. If you don't things are only going to get worse. My b/f and i have issues sometimes, but when we talk things out, they usually get better. Also ask yourself if you are willing to put in the work your relationship needs for it to work out.
2006-07-27 13:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by saspicysweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit and talk and make her feel good about herself and love again and everything should be fine.
2006-07-27 13:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by krisice456 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, did you talk to her about your problems that you guys are having I think you need to. I was just having one my self a few months back but we talk about everything and it work. so best of luck1 you need to talk!
2006-07-27 13:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by tinagodovan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the problem is. Typically, it is recomented to sit down and talk it out.
2006-07-27 13:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by tsx000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring in a third for a threesome
it wil bring in some fun for a night
2006-07-27 13:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate!!! talk to her, see what's going on tell her how you feel.
2006-07-27 13:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by weebles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't help you if you don't elaborate. What's the problem?
2006-07-27 13:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋