I'm in a long-distance relationship with my childhood sweetheart. It's been a long time since we've seen each other and although he is so adorable, sometimes it feels weird that he's never around... Not to mention that some of my friends and family think what we have is silly. To make things more complicated, this guy from my new work appears. He's a more mature, very good looking and very intellectual person who is either being friendly or hitting on me... I know I'm attracted to him but it seems so wrong, yet I am so confused. I would be so flattered if he'd ask me out, yet I can't ever imagine my life without my sweety. Which one is the wrong path? Hypothetically who would you pick?
2006-07-27 13:26:50 · 27 answers · asked by FairyGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to look at the future. If sweety is in it, you need to persue that relationship as far as it goes. How old are you? If you are on the sunny side of 25, you need to make some hard choices, but make sure you are not closing any doors. If you are older, you need to find out if sweety will get near you, or you near him, and start talking marriage. If any part of that plan seems impossible or strange, you have your answer and you need to cut sweety loose so he, and you, can continue looking for a mate. Last word of advice: The presence of the new guy should not affect your decision. If you break with sweety, it should be because you wnat to explore other options, not just this guy. You don't want to break off a good thing to look for a greener pasture, have that not work, and then lose the real thing. Make up your mind about sweety and get serious or get out, but don't dump him or cheat because of new office hunk. You owe him that much. Maybe you can have a very honest talk with him about your future?
2006-07-27 13:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by Jester 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would forget the long-distance sweetheart. He is far away and taking too long
to fulfill your longing heart. What could he be doing so great than coming to you
and fulfill your longing passions. Perhaps there is someone else fulfilling your spot.
Do not put your life on hold for him. Give this new Guy a try it may be the answer to
your dreams and take your mind off of long-distance.
2006-07-27 20:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered this yourself, go with the new guy, it's obvious you want out of the old relationship. Saying things like "sometimes it feels weird that he's never around... Not to mention that some of my friends and family think what we have is silly." only backs up my answer. Next.
2006-07-27 20:31:51 · answer #3 · answered by jdcarey1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hypothetically speaking I would pick the guy from New York since the relationship with your childhood sweetheart seems childish like you said but it's really your decision.
2006-07-27 20:29:55 · answer #4 · answered by morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hypothetically, I would ask out the guy at work just to see what happened and then find out (hypothetically of course) that he was a closet jerk and had two wives in Tahiti... go back and beg forgiveness of my sweety and pray every night for the next 10 years that some day he would forgive me and let me back into his heart. Best wishes
2006-07-27 20:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you haven't realized it yet but this is not the last time you will have to make this choice, there will be others after the guy at work who will have their eye on you. So, if you are not sure your "sweetheart" is worth the sacrifice jump ship now, it will hurt him more the longer you wait.
2006-07-27 20:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really consider the guy to be your childhood sweetheart ? if you do then there would be no way you would bother with the mature man who may be married he just sounds like a jack the lad. if it was me & i knew for sure i loved the sweety there would be NO WAY i would look at another man in that way.
2006-07-27 20:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on if the guy from work is hitting on you or being nice, like you said. And if he is a good guy, then i would choose him, just cause I dont think long distance relationships work out IN MOST CASES. sometimes they do, but not likley.
2006-07-27 20:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Why Not 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think this way; you end your long distant relationship and you start a new one with this person... everything is perfect and you are very happy... but sometime latter your sweethearts appear what would you do, go back to him, if is so don't finish because you will regret the other relationship. because trust me he will go back to you all man are the same...
2006-07-27 20:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well pick the one who see yourself with in ten years....its that simple...look at the pros and cons of both... and if they are even then go for the one who lives by you. Actually 'being' with the person ur dating feels so much better than long emails and love letters.
2006-07-27 20:30:46 · answer #10 · answered by * Flave' * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋