Should I change religions for someone? She is Pentecostal and i am catholic. She wants me in church?

Answer 1

Hello friend,
Here is a question for you that may help to answer yours.
Are you Born Again. and is she?
Please notice I didn't ask what religion you are. In God's eyes, He sees your heart and not a hyphenated or branded Christian.
To Him, there are no Pentecostal-Christians or Catholic-Christians, or any other of a billion religions man has dreamed up.
That being said and true, may I also mention you said "She wants me in church"... what do you want friend?
If your heart belongs to Christ, you'll want to be where He is.
I'd like to suggest that you and your friend sit down in a neutral open place and study the book of Acts.
There you will see the church that Jesus built. Then from God's Book, see if you can find either your church or hers in those pages.
Compare what you read there with what you see in any church.
If the church lines up with God's Word, He's there.
I suspect that's the place you should be.
Blessings,
2 Tim. 2:7

Answer 2

How in the world will you raise your children if you have any? The Catholic church does not approve of a Catholic marrying outside of their "faith"
Nor does the Pentecostal church approve of a Pentecostal girl marrying a Catholic boy...IF you two were to marry in the future.

You need to do some soul-searching to find out what it is that you actually believe as far as your relationship with God and His Word.


If I were you I'd visit her church and see if I could accept the Pentecostal way of believing the Bible, and if not, I
would break up with her before things got more complicated, for her sake and yours.

Catholics are allowed to smoke and drink.
Pentecostals do not smoke and drink.

What if your friends want to come around and smoke and drink with you or even around you?
You think she would approve?
Not if she's a real Pentecostal...

Answer 3

God changes people, people do not change people or it goes very bad. I suggest attending a few of her services and vice versa. Likewise, you may look for a local Catholic charismatic service. These are Catholics who are also Pentecostal. Same experience except one is Catholic with the fullness of what that means and also Pentecostal at the same time with the fullness of what that means as well.

If you are going to change, change for God he is all loving and all merciful. Pray. Listen and help her to listen.

I also suggest "Home Sweet Rome," which is a story about the reverse trip to Catholicism. I suggest it because the emotions and the psychology are the same, even though the journey is in the opposite direction. It was written by Scott and Kimberly Hahn. Neither were Pentecostal but they were both Protestant scripture theologians. If either of you try to change for the other, it will make life very difficult and you need to prepare for it.

God bless and may His mercy be abundant upon you!

Answer 4

Don't change church for someone else - do both churches!

To make her comfortable. what you should do is (if your town is big enough) hunt down a Charismatic Catholic parish. She'll hardly know the difference - except for the Catholic liturgy and eucharist, those guys act quite pentecostal.

Answer 5

I've heard that someone who is with a Catholic should go Catholic. Since they are so conservative, it's better to get their view than to force yours on a Catholic. I'm a Protestant with a Catholic sister who is saved. She chose Catholicism before she had any serious romantic interests. Her husband is a Catholic and they are two happy people together.

Praying will help.

Answer 6

You both have Jesus at the center of your beliefs. If neither of you feel led to the others church, then share. Go to each others church every other week. As you two build a relationship together, do not let dogma get in the way. If you feel that you are at the right church then stay. The two of you really need to search your souls for what you really want, for yourselves and each other. You know how Jesus defines his love for the two of you, but how do the two of you define your love? I hope that you both can enjoy life and what God wants for both of you.

Answer 7

I see no reasons why you can not attend services in both churches. While it is certainly possible that the doctrine of either church require that you forsake other religions before they allow you to get married within that church, it nevertheless would enrich both of your lives and the lives of any of your children to experience the rich heritage of both churches. After all, the religion is Christianity and you are not changing that.

Peace and Love

Answer 8

It depends on how important your religion is to you. If you're just Catholic, but not really that religious, then maybe it's okay. But if you're a devout Catholic, then that could be a problem. Decide what's really important to you. If your religion is very important, then I wouldn't change for someone else.

Answer 9

Well, it really depends on you. If being Catholic is what you want to be, then tell her. If you are interested in becoming Pentecostal, then check it out-- you never know. Either way, tell her what you really want, and if she doesn't accept, then debate with her. You have to let her understand.

Answer 10

Do you really see these as two different religions? Denominations with a definite difference of opinion, but it's all God and the Bible, right?

If she's more serious than you about religious things, then maybe her church is more active and engaging than what you're used to and you would get more out of it than the one you are in.

I say: check it out; what the worst that could happen?

It's all God.