Why is it that so many people are looking to make money and get gifts out of their wedding? I think its pathetic all the questions about money dances and how to ask for money as a wedding gift. Half my guests at my wedding didn't give anything and I couldn't care less. It was about gaining a husband and person I love more then anything, not about making money off of it or trying to get others to pay for my wedding. Maybe thats why so many marriages fail today. Peopl are more interested in getting out then putting in. Can anyone please tell me why people are so selfish?
2006-07-27 13:15:13 · 8 answers · asked by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
lol...if you can't afford the wedding you're having then you shouldn't be having it and its not up to other people to cover the cost of your wedding by giving a large gift. Some people say its appropraite to give as much money as what the couple are spending on your meal. Thats BS! Why should I be paying for my own meal at a wedding? Thanks to the people who actually got my point on here and to the people who aren't all about themsleves.
2006-07-28 06:54:23 · update #1
It's our society, we live in a very "me" centered world today. Even people thinking about getting married are hesitating because of all the stuff "I" haven't done yet. And you're right, these people don't get past the "I" in marriage, and they put in their 50%, thinking that should be enough, and the minute they have to put in 51%, they feel like it's not fair, and look to bail out. I realize I'm speaking very generally, but I see alot of people like this, and it's really, really sad.
2006-07-27 13:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is the society we are raised in. Some people want the money so they can spend it where they want to spend it on the things they want. My husband and I eloped and then one year later had the big church wedding. We had to be married in a Catholic Church so that is why the two weddings. We didn't tell people we were married, we kept it secret. We really didn't want to do all the big wedding gifts, because we already had a lot from being on our own. But my mother-in-law felt that this was her chance to get her money back from all those weddings she attended and gave gifts. In fact, her one aunt (my husband's great aunt) insisted that we had to register at one store that neither of us wanted to register at. When she didn't like what we put on the list, I had to go back and put more things down. I received 6 sets of pots and pans (start counting it was 18 pots and pans, 6 cookers, 21 lids, etc). I had to return some of these sets - who really needs this many sets. The store said I could not return them and take the money and get what I really needed - which they did not sell. I had to use all this money in their store only. I spent a great deal of time buying and returning. Every weekend to be exact. I'd buy something wait an hour and return it. All this because I was told I had to use this store by some old woman who didn't want to use the stores I wanted to use. For the record I still have the cookie jar with all the peeling paint. It would have been nice to not have to do this second wedding with all its headaches. Because I really didn't want to go to all the parties, didn't want all these gifts. I just wanted to get on with my life and stay out of the limelight. For the record, I have sworn I am never getting married again.
2006-07-27 21:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has more to do with the "perception" of wealth more than anything else. I believe there are a lot of folks who spend above their means.
Think about it, there are some people who have extravagant weddings and then find themselves living in an apartment because they can't afford a house. However, someone paid for that wedding worth a large down payment or even a whole home. Whare are your priorities?
2006-07-27 23:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, society has gotten very rude and it seems no one has any manners or sense of propriety any more. Good for you for not stooping to their level. There seem to be few etiquette-aware brides like us left!
I'm planning my wedding right now and it is SO frustrating, dealing with all the industry crap and BS improper advice.
If I had unlimited funds, I would give out Miss Manners on Weddings books to everyone in the country who got engaged.
2006-07-27 20:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself I don't care if I get gifts or not, I will be getting married next spring or summer. If a person wants to give a gift then let them, but it (as far as I know) is not mandatory to give gifts.
2006-07-28 00:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by kznight1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on u r financial situation n u r budget
2006-07-28 05:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by pastakanasta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody only thinks of themselves.
Sad isn't it?
2006-07-27 20:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, what really matters is that YOU get what weddings are really about...
2006-07-27 20:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by Cassor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋