If your parents were abusive, dose it run in the family?
2006-07-27 13:14:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
NO! Some people CHOOSE! to continue the pattern but it is NOT hereditary. Some of the best parents I know were abused as kids. They decided to break the pattern and give their kids love and healthy discipline. Firm boundaries but the knowledge that their parents are there when they need them. These parents have never laid a hand on their kids.
It is true that many people who abuse their kids were absed but the reverse is not true.
2006-07-27 13:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Several factors in a person's life may combine to cause them to abuse a child:
stress, depression, or anxiety; includes the stress of caring for children, or the stress of caring for a child with a disability, special needs, or difficult behaviors
lack of the nurturing qualities necessary for caring for a child
difficulty controlling anger
a personal history of being abused
isolation from the family or community
physical or mental health problems (in the abuser)
alcohol or drug abuse
personal problems, such as marital conflict
financial difficulties, such as unemployment or housing problems
No one has been able to predict which of these factors will cause someone to abuse a child. A significant factor is that abuse tends to be intergenerational – those who were abused as children are more likely to repeat the act when they become parents or caretakers.
In addition, many forms of child abuse arise from ignorance, isolation, or benign neglect. Sometimes a cultural tradition leads to abuse; for example, such beliefs as:
Children are property.
Parents (especially males) have the right to control their children in any way they wish.
if you are being abused or no someone who is call 911 and get help ....
2006-07-27 16:31:06 · answer #2 · answered by purple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!!!! We each have the ability to make our own decisions...take me ffor example, Iwas abused as a child but since the day that my daughters were born I knew that they would grow up free of abuse.Most parents feel if they have to teach their child a lesson the easiest way is to beat them or neglect them in some way,(WRONG) the easiest way to do anything with a child is to explain to them that "it's wrong to do" and then (depending on age of child/children) explain why it was wrong.Try letting them pick a punishment for themselves,you might be surprised at what they choose and that they tend not to make as many "mistakes"
2006-07-27 13:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by scott f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the poem "Children Learn What They Live" it explains so much. I think if you grow up being abused it seems more normal to you than someone who wasn't abused. So it's like a cycle that can be broken with good intervention. But I don't think that it is hereditary.
2006-07-27 13:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by messijessi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I have learned yes that there can be a genetic connection , just like depression, suicide is heritary(there is a gene in the family blood line that is passed generation to generation that causes the urge, and depression, ocd, psychopath, narcasism and so on are and can be passed on and all these can also cause one to commit abuse. Check into it for yourself and you will be surprised what things now days are genetic and so on.
2006-07-27 14:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by mn01countrygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Genetically, no. Environmentally, yes. Monkey see, monkey do. And it's incredibly hard to break the vicious cycle if the people that raised you were abusive in any way.
2006-07-27 13:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by tumadre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normaly yes..my fathers father used to beat him with sticks etc and he used to get beaten for his brother to..my nan was also beaten by the same man. when my mum and dad got married my dad beat my mum for years and all through my growing up i thought it was normal that this happened. until i came to a comprehensive school. then i knew it was not right and then my own feeling towards men of hate and mistrust. took over. my sister went onto marry a man who was exactly like my dad and took 9 years of abuse until he tried to kill my sis and her kids..the police took her and put her in a safe house. to which he killed him self because he could not live with the violent abuse he gave to my sister. and me i swore at a early age i would never marry a man who would touch me and i didnt. i saw it too much. even my dads brother beat his wife. some times putting glassess over her head. and yes they are still married. my mum n dad are still married to. and to this day i would never know how such relations survive. i still hate some men.and mistrust them. but who can blame me look at my past life...
2006-07-27 13:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think kids learn what they see, but sometimes they don't want to be like there abusive parents.
2006-07-30 14:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by skybludeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ITS NOT. THE ONLY THING HEREDITERY IS WHATS IN THE BLOOD. CHILD ABUSE IS A GENERATIONAL CURSE THAT CAN BE BROKEN IF YOU ARE WILLING TO BREAK IT.
2006-07-27 13:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in some ways yes a child learns what they see and store it up in side they remember
2006-07-27 13:20:13 · answer #10 · answered by Genesis A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋