I'm officially freaked out. I'm going on my first date with my boyfriend. there will be other people there but we're going to the movies. should i rest my head on his shoulder? or wait for him? i don't want to embarass myself. We've already kissed once. But erggg, what should i do? tips on how to survive? thanks.
2006-07-27 13:13:59 · 34 answers · asked by Amanda F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have to "do" anything. These kinds of things can't be planned... it will end up ackward if you try. Be yourself and let whatever happens, happen... if anything happens. Do you know what I mean? Most important... Have fun and don't do anything you are not comfortable with...
Best Wishes on your first date... T.
2006-07-27 13:23:01 · answer #1 · answered by Theophania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being worried. This is the kind of stuff that comes natural with two young people. You will take clues from each other.
If his elbow is on the arm rest between the two of you , you can put your arm through his. Just make sure your hand is where he can take hold of it, if he wants to. The head thing will happen if it feels right. Remember going to a movie is NOT an excuse to make out and miss the movie. You can make out later.
If you feel nervous just take a slow.......very slow deep breath.
If you can't find a thing to say, ask a question. Nothing wrong with being quiet. Be yourself and enjoy.
2006-07-27 13:20:49 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very excited for you. As long as you aren't stiff like I was on my first date to the movies I think you'll do fine. When I went I was so nervous that I didn't even move. My date nicely grabbed my hand to hold and I was like the Tin Man. He had a difficult time getting comfortable because I was so stiff. He let go and that was that. I honestly don't think you should feel the need to do anything. It is his responsibility to make a move and your responsibility to let him know if he is going too far. Just make sure you're relaxed enough to hold his hand if he reaches for it kiddo. Maybe you could get a second date out of it ... I didn't :) Good luck to you and have fun!
2006-07-27 13:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend.. and you have already kissed. Well, you got the ackward part taken care of... so, why get freaked out if you put your head on his shoulder. If you feel comfortable enough then do it, if he pulls away there's your sign to move your head. Or you could take the diplomatic approach... ask him if he minds if you put your head on his shoulder. Take a deep breath and relax... you'll have a fun time. If you stay tense you won't have a good time cuz' you'll be worrying about what is going through his mind.
2006-07-27 13:20:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...wow, you've already kissed once? Wow..take it easy, slow down a bit! hehe
But seriously, just let him take the lead, or if he seems shy or not sure of what to do, try to help him out. Just be cool and don't worry about things too much. On resting your head, I'm not sure. I wouldn't think so, but you can wait and see if it seems right. Most of the times b/f and g/f hold hands during the movie.
2006-07-27 13:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see your dilema, sometimes waiting on a guy to make the first move can drive you made. Honestly i don't think you should plan out your next move right now. If you think about it to hard you won't be natural and you will end up looking like you are trying to hard. But I know this is easier said than done so if you must make the first move it should be something small like reaching for his hand, maybe then he will get the hint.
2006-07-27 13:29:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitly have to sit by him. (duh.) What you should do during the movie depends on what kind of movie it is. If it's a romantic movie, rest your head on his should, and give him a flirty peck on the lips during the movie. If it's a tear-jerker, lock hands with him. If it's a horror movie, lean over him during the movie and say, "I'm scared (even if you're not)." Then hold his hand. If it's an action movie, sit close to him. You definitly won't embarass yourself. You'll be cool.
2006-07-27 13:20:31 · answer #7 · answered by Skater_Gurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh how nice! well its a 10/10 chance that your bf is nervous to and the fact that its not just you 2 alone it could be hard for him to hold your hand for example but if you 2 sit alone away from the crowd im sure he'll be sweating and his hands will be all clamy but he will definetly hold you hand and maybe after the movie their be some snuggling lols but dont worry about looking stupid your both nervous just listen to your heart and trust him and his judgements and actions HAVE FUN Now!
2006-07-27 13:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by easybreezy beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look one stop freaking out i am sure your date will go okay do what you want if you feel like putting your head on his shoulder go for it if you have the guts or if you want him to make the first move then let him try too if he doesn't i say you make the first move good luck tonight and have fun with him
2006-07-27 13:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Luckily he'll be just as nervous as you are. Wait for him to make the first move, because currently he's asking his boys the same question as you just did.
If he puts your arm around you, smile happily and snuggle into him.
If he kisses you, kiss him back. If he tries to touch more than you are comfortable with, just firmly move his hand away, he'll respect you for it.
2006-07-27 13:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋