Ok, me and my boyfriend have been going out 4 over a yr and a half now and we haven't really gotten that far. The most that we've done is kissed. I mean I don't wanna go THAT much further you know bc we're only in 9th grade and I'm just not like that. When we kiss it's more than just a lil peck on the lips but I feel that I want to go further than that but not sure what he wants to do. I don't wanna talk to him about it bc he'll think I'm a dork so WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?
2006-07-27 13:08:58 · 30 answers · asked by 2sweet2forget 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In any relationship you should feel comfortable to talk with your partner. If you can't talk with him, then you aren't ready to have sex with him. Sex is very intimate and should be taken seriously. If you make that decision and feel you are mature enough - be sure that you are ready to take all the consequences that come with having sex! Always be safe!
Personally, I say you are too young but you have make your own decisions.
2006-07-27 13:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Wonder Woman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, first of all you should always talk to your bf about what's going on in the relationship to make sure you are on the same page. Second, (since you don't want to talk to him) if you want to do more than just a peck how about when you are about to kiss him, put your two hands on his face and give him a very nice, soft, long kiss. The way you can do this is by sucking on his lower lip...this will show him that you want a bit more...but make sure it's a gentle sucking...this means it should be something you enjoy as well. I know it sounds stupid but I recommend you practice using your fingers, this way you will know how much sucking pressure you are applying when you kiss him. Make sure it is gentle and do it for a while. I am sure he will get the hint...and just to add to it a bit more maybe you should ask him to do it to you.
I am gonna assume you want to step up from the small pecks to learning how to make out...well the suggestion i gave you is a good start...but...I definitely think your too young to be thinking about any sexual acts...this means any removal of clothing. Just know that you never want to rush a relationship at this age, always keep the lines of communication open (even if your worried he will think your a dork... it's better to be honest than to never be able to get your point across) and finally don't think about having sex anytime soon, because it changes everything and you will never be the same.
You can email me if you want pointers on how kiss, or need to talk...my sister is about your age and is going thru the same kinda stuff...so ...good luck, be honest and stay safe.
2006-07-27 20:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your head in the books and get some knowledge and forget about that pansty
tail relationship. This kind of situation can mess up your life cause that's what those
type of communication do. It starts in the mind and then it will go futher unless you stop
now and go the other way. Futhermore you are too young to endanger your celebate
life with kissing right now. Get educated now before you get stuck in the mudd and
cause other depression over yourfeelings. Be good.
2006-07-27 20:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and I would definitely wait. I know first hand what sex can bring unprotected. I wouldn't change anything having my daughter whom is now 7 but when I was in high school... lets just say i made a nice conversation piece for people. Like I said I wouldn't change it for the world but I had to put my life on hold for her and now my 4 yr old son. I am only 26 and I am no better of now then I was then.The difference is I have two kids to support. Totally my choice, no sympathy needed here. But know what you want in your future cause sometimes life will throw you a few surprises
2006-07-27 20:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by bbschwarm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think you are a dork for wanting to talk about it? I am guessing not - and I am guessing if you are thinking about it - so is he. Further, he may feel more conflicted than you because thats what guys are known for.
If you two share something real - then you should have no problem talking about such things. If nothing else, you should at least find out what he thinks about the situation.
2006-07-27 20:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by kpizura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay.. i am going into 10th this year.. if he is a normal 10th grade guy.. he won't mind going a bit farther either. I mean.. my bf is real religious and haven't done n e thing SERIOUS...but we do more than just kiss. Its normal to feel that way ESPECIALLY after a year. Just try little things like kissing his neck and running your hands thru his hair. Even little things like pressing againts him a bit more will give him the idea. But.. the best way possible is probably just to show him wat you want by trying then out him. Be playful this way u can always just say u were playing around. Hope it helped!
2006-07-27 20:16:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bugg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the ninth grade? You shouldnt be talking about sex (I assume thats what you mean) at all.
Okay, heres the deal. You dont even really need a relationship right now. Going any further will just muck everything up for you and you'll regret it this early. I think you two should just be friends for right now since thats basically what you are anyway. Save all that dramatic mess for when you're my age (26).
Please dont have sex at the age of 14, please. At least wait until you're 18. Okay?
2006-07-27 20:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule of thumb.
If you can't freely talk about sex without blushing, you don't need to be having it, or anything else.
If you can't look him in the eye and tell him that you want him to touch you more places, or kiss you more places, then you are too young to worry bout it.
Enjoy the relationship, sounds like you've got a good one and a good guy that is willing to stay with you.
And just keep that in mind, when you can talk to him about it, then you are ready for it.
2006-07-27 20:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to really focus on other things. kissing is the max of what u should be doing. stop trying to grow up so fast, i think if ur asking questions like this, ur not mature enough to handle those type situations yet. never feel pressured to do anything and never be naive.
2006-07-27 20:17:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. DeVine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a tough one... if you just give him a big sloppy kiss on the lips, he might get freaked out. Or... he might feel the same way you do. Can't hurt to playfully try to lay one on him... see if he pulls away or kisses you back.
2006-07-27 20:16:10 · answer #10 · answered by wendyc222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋