Why a guy who behave like a strong guy,with strong opinion,cry like a baby when Im telling him that...?

Question

I cant take anymore,his rude behavour,his sarcastic jokes about me,the zero trust,BUT HE NEVER TRY TO CHANGE ALL THIS,and he is continiue hurting me and behave like an animal and he never think that all this break my feelings my nerves and my personality?But he took me in his only 3free days of his work in the most perfect hotel in a greek icland,guys like he wants to be and act doesnt do moves like this,he gaves me 1 and he takes 10 back,Im confused,and I really dont know what to do,cause I know he loves me but Im trying to change the way he speak to me and the way he treat me,not the person he is,should I try or should I leave him?please help me

Answer 1

From what you describe, your man is emotionally abusive and feeding off of your life force. He keeps putting you down, talking to you roughly, "giving one and taking ten." If he does love you, it's not a healthy, respectful, giving type of love. His love is diseased and twisted, hurting you for his pleasure. You will never change this man. The only thing you can do is get out, now. His pattern of behavior, acting out and then apologizing with a reward (like the trip to a Greek island), is the pattern of a chronic abuser, and the abuse will only get worse until you leave him or he kills you. Many physically abusive men started out as emotionally abusive. Millions of women would still be alive today if they had left their abusive men when they saw the beginning signs of trouble.

Answer 2

without taking in to account the additional details and just answering the actual initial question. in short even the most outwardly toughest and alleged hard men have there weak and feminin side so yes sometime s guys do cry especially if it is something we care deeply about.

reading the additional, he may not know how to change, have you explained in graphic detail exactly what it is he needs to do to change his ways in acalm and focused maner? if not sit down at home no kids no radio no tv and no background music of any sort.
now explain clearly what you need him to change if he wants to keep you in his life (pressuming you still love him and would want to be with him if he would only change his ways).

if his dad was abusive to his mom he may think that is normal and how he should treat you, likewise he may have grown up listening to all the lyrics in the worst of the rap songs and how those lyrics tend to treat girls in a less than acceptable manner.

you have either got to sit him down and talk about the problems or you leave him and find a guy who will love you and treat you how youwant and deserve to be treated.

the choice as they say is yours.

Answer 3

He does NOT love you or he wouldn't do and say the things he does. I know FOR SURE. I've been there and so have many thousands more. You need to take a long hard look at the relationship. Think of someone you know that loves you more than anything in the world...maybe a teacher, Sunday School Teacher, best friend, counselor - you know somebody who does - now when you think of that person...think of how that person treats you and talks to you. You really know that he could not possibly love you (like you want to be loved, at least) and do and say the things he does. Loving is putting someone else and their feelings above our own. When someone does that, you'll know it's love...and not until. It took me a long, long time to wake up and it went beyond the talking and acting mean. But after about 10 years of it and a divorce - I learned to love me. (That's one thing you don't do enough of right now. Love yourself and know that others can really love you, too) Then after 3+ years of dating someone else, we've been happily married for almost 2 years....and yes, he loves me....he always puts me before himself and before anybody else. He is a very humble, patient, kind, loving man.... He treats me like a queen....not with gifts, but with the most sincere love I've ever known. Now take a look at yourself and your relationship....He doesn't really love you. And, you certainly don't really love him. Just hope it doesn' t take you as long to realize it as it did me! Take care.... Keep your chin up... the best in life is yet to come.

Answer 4

Oh Please......will you stop whining!!!! You can't even write and make sense! He doesn't Love you, girl, he is using you!!! You are an enabler and and oh, forget changing him.....Eeee Gads!!!! Confused??? Well you should be......about your behavior! You need therapy and move on! First of all, learn how to speak and write the English language.....you sound ignorant! Next, stop acting in a degrading manner.....no wonder he treats you the way he does.....because you let him! Don't point the finger at HIS behavior......YOU are the one who had better change, sweetie!!!

Answer 5

Every guy has his own weak spots. you obviously found his.

Slap his wrist real hard and tell him you love him, but can't stand the sarcastic jokes about you and the lack of trust.

In this case just give him the ultimatum, I usually don't advise them, but just suggest that he make jokes about other people than you, and that he take a deep breath before he assumes that you are cheating on him.

If he doesn't shape up within the month, see him later, mend your heart and move on.

Answer 6

The right person will come along one day. When someone says that they love you, they won't treat you bad and keep you confused. That's not love. When you love someone you respect them, their feelings, and you honest about everything. He sounds to me like a person you don't need to be with, too much of a control freak.

Answer 7

well listen i spend the last 4 years of my life trying to change mine and it doesn't work dat way ur never going 2 change him u may modify little things but datz it........ if he cry waz 2 get ur pity believe me mine never cried in his whole life till the day i left him i felt sorry and got back together and nothing has change if u keep with diz the only one that is going 2 get hurt is u

Answer 8

Girl you better get out while you can!! The first opportunity you get~GO!!! Don't look back. He doesn't love you and He will NEVER Change. I've been there!! It will eventually eat all of your nerves and you'll be on all kind of nerve pills like me. So Please, there are better guys out there. Go find you one that is Truly good to you. Good Luck!!

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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