Broke up with ex, moved out of our apt we shared and moved back with parents. Been home for one week and my mom, who mismanages money all the time is already trying to hit me up for money. I paid $500 on her rent and $150 on electric for this month and I've only been there for 1 week. Today she said she needed help for rent again and gas. I told her I was going to move out into own place is this wrong? She has a good jib and so does my step father but she just spends and neglects to pay bills on time.
2006-07-27 12:36:22 · 15 answers · asked by Kenya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are incredibly sweet to ask if this is wrong.
No you are not wrong.
You are being put in an uncomfortable position and you see the wrongness of it from your *parents* part.
Protect yourself.
Move out with a friend if you can.
If you can't, ask your mom if you can pay a fair, as this is not fair, part of the rent and bills.
Ask her to keep in mind that you want/need to move out.
If your consideration is disgarded, then protect yourself and try and move out with a friend that has a stable enviroment for a couple months. Good luck and stay strong.
2006-07-27 13:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong. Some people are like that, I know from experience with my own family. I say that you don't need to help her out no more, save your money to pay your own apartment. Tell your mom that you can only afford to pay her $x amount a month for rent and that you will buy your own groceries and that you need the rest of your money for your own apt. You can also offer to manage her money or hook her up with an agency who could help her out and teach her about money management
2006-07-27 19:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by munich13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a discussion with both the mother & step father concerning your obligation towards rent, utilities and food. Get it in writing and get receipts for what you pay them. Pay that amount and no more. Don't loan money to either of them. And plan to move out as soon as possible. This is a mess that you can't fix.
2006-07-27 19:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by momma dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You paid more than you fair share. She is just using you for the money. How did she manage when you weren't there? Offer to pay rent and part of the utilities and $650.00 per month is way too much. Offer a total of no more than $100 per week for both.
2006-07-27 19:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a plan to me! Get the heck out of there!
Your mom shouldn't be hitting you up for money like that. Since she obviously was making it before without you there, she'll be able to do it again.
She needs to learn how to budget better.
Don't make a scene, however, though. I don't think that alienating your mom and stepdad would be a good idea, either.
I would just look for a place and explain to her that you need to be out on your own. You were out before and it is 'weird' for you to go back to living with your parents.
2006-07-27 19:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to approach a parent, when you are the child. I can say, yes to rent. That's not the problem. Is she wearing out your welcome? If so, pack up back up, and move back out. It doesn't sound like you like her mismanaged money situation.
2006-07-27 20:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you should agree to a set weekly amount that you pay your mom and get a receipt, then when she asks for more you say sorry mom I have paid ..then if that does not work move out!.
2006-07-27 19:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by buttons_and_bows_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's horrible. you shouldn't be paying all your parents bills just because you're back home. if i were you i might as well get my own place if you're going to end up paying for a bunch of stuff you don't need to pay for. plus you arnt getting the respect you should be getting from them if they have like good jobs and stuff.
2006-07-27 19:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by kay.ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong is what your mom is doing to you...that's messed up. You should have a talk with her. And you need to face it, she's useing you, and you need to move out and let her pay her own bills...Sorry that she's doing this to you...it sux! She should have to worry about her own problems...not you, you have your own problems...so she's going to have to accept that. Good Luck!!
2006-07-27 19:47:23 · answer #9 · answered by Nanner♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same just happen to me too! Weird with my exfiance but regarding the money next time she ask you for rent money tell her to give you a recit! so the next time she try's to hit you for money you tell her not till next moth!
2006-07-27 19:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by werewolf2become 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋