My mom thinks so. just wondering.
2006-07-27 12:30:00 · 22 answers · asked by This is harder than it looks? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
OK first off I must say that no matter what ANYONE else thinks- it is YOUR wedding. You can do whatever you want to do at it. I dont think it is at all tacky to have a money dance, in fact in some cultures it is EXPECTED that people do it. In some Italian families they give the bride and groom money in envelopes or put money in the pretty satchel that the bride carries around.
Bottom line is though that just because there is a money dance going on at a reception does not mean you have to partake in it. You can simply decline and tell the bride/groom that you would love to but it is not something you believe in or something nice like that.
When i get married here next year I know we are having it- only because that is one thing his family does and expects at their weddings. I have no problem with it!
As long as you dont REQUIRE people to do the money dance then you are fine- if it is an offer, then people will have the opportunity to say yeah or nay on the whole situation.
Oh yeah- by the way, moms say TONS of things when it comes to weddings, but sadly it means very little since it would be you getting married- not her!
2006-07-27 15:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No I don't think it is tacky!! I am getting married in November and plan on doing the same. I have been to several weddings where they hold the money dances. I think it is a great idea not only for extra money two rd the honey moon, but it ALSO gives you and your "husband" more of a chance to spend one on one time with your guest. It may only be a couple of minutes but it is a couple more then what you may have been able to spend with them personally.
2006-07-27 14:07:19 · answer #2 · answered by kathylene 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe a money dance at a wedding should be considered tacky in any way. That also may be because I was just at a wedding and they had one.
2006-07-27 12:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by Tori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. Guests are already giving gifts and usually putting money out for things like stuff to wear, travelling if necessary and what not so they should feel obligated to put out more money for a dance with you. you should be honoured to dance with your quests for no money at all. And yes, they will fell obligated because it looks bad on them not to participate if others are and they shouldnt have to feel that way. A wedding is not to get gifts. I'm not saying you feel it is, but a lot of people who marry are looking to get money and gifts out of it. Half my guests at my wedding didn't give anything at all and we had open bar too. I couldn't care less because its not an excuse to get gifts or make money. It was my day to start the rest of my life with the man I love and all I wanted was to share it with the people we love. That was enough. Don't do a money dance and don't look to get anything but a husband out of your wedding. Thats all that should truely matter. Mother knows best they say so I suggest taking your moms advice that its tacky. Its like you'd be asking your guests to help pay for your wedding. Thats not at all acceptable.
2006-07-27 13:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only appropriate IF it is part of your cultural heritage, brief, and optional. If your mom says no, then it seems not to be part of your culture!
It's not a money-making tactic. Weddings are not fundraisers. It's just a tiny bit of "token" well-wishing money people give the bride and groom.
Some cultures pour a container of coins, candies and almonds over the bride's head for good fortune and good luck. Some cultures have a dollar dance and each person pins a dollar to the bride. It's the same sentiment, different custom.
2006-07-27 13:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is very tacky. It is letting people know that if they want to dance with you and your fiance they have to pay for this privilege. Just dance and have fun. These people are coming to celebrate with you not to finance your honeymoon, the purchase of a house or anything else.
2006-07-27 14:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's a part of your ethnicity and customs, it wouldn't be considered tacky, because only those who want to will participate. Otherwise, people have already given you a gift, and should not feel pressure to also cough up cash at the dance.
2006-07-28 03:27:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not tacky!!! It is a way that people can help you with the expenses you had for the wedding and help you with a honeymoon
2006-07-27 12:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by Wendy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all money dances are awesome and guest don't have to even give if they don't want and for the ones that due bring it on. Its harmless its not like they have to pin 100 dollar bills on you although that is nice. Go for it I've been to many weddings that have done it and every one enjoys it and I'm doing it at my wedding to. So go for it you wont regret it.
2006-07-27 15:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by UNFORGETTABLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its tacky at all. I am doing that at my wedding next year
2006-07-27 13:37:45 · answer #10 · answered by jen1984ny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋