I always love my boyfriend and I never want to hurt him because i love him to death but why is it everytime I feel ignored by him or he chooses a friend over me or he does something that makes me feel bad, i FEEL LIKE HURTING HIM WORSE. lIKE TALK ABOUT A GUY FRIED OR FLIRT WITH MY GUY FRIEND OR something. I have controlled it alot but sometimes I really feel like doing something. Please help! Don't insult or criticize please, I just want your help. Thanks !
2006-07-27 12:20:45 · 15 answers · asked by Lindsay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is natural for you to feel this way towards some one you love that much to death. One way to not do any thing that you can regret like stabbing him or doing some thing unspeakable.
It is wise to have a hobby or some thing positive to do, than to focus so much attention on some one you love to death. Any time you put that much interest in some one, things are bond to happen as you some times make all kinds of sacrifice for that person and they take you for granted.
You feel like flirting with your guy friends as a (Pay Back ) to him for not taking you serious. In some cases you even end up sleeping with some one and then regret it later on.
Like i said one way to get over this is to have some thing to do other than focus on him. There must be some hobby that you like or some organization doing some work etc.......Relationships are a complex thing and the above have worked for me.
My ineptitude may not work for you, but by mentioning them they can be a road map as to give you some ideas. Don't ever love some one so deeply that you don't have a life of your own. Suppose your boyfriend leave you one day.
What are you going to do ? Girl have a life of your own as you never know what is around the corner in a relationship. Seek Advice from older more experience people you can trust in a similar situation like yours with your Boy Friend. They can give you a lot of tips to help sort out your situation
Hope this helps !
2006-07-27 12:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he really ignoring you or do you just feel that he is? The things you listed that make you angry all seem to be related to him having a life away from you, which he does and always will. The exception is him doing something that makes you feel bad. If he does these things on purpose with the intent to hurt you, you need to leave him. If he is simply living his life and you feel left out, then you need to leave him because you are not ready for a relationship. Otherwise, you need to talk to him about it instead of "hurting him worse" because you will not be able to hurt him worse when he walks out because of it. Talk to him, it may be a simple misunderstanding.
2006-07-27 12:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an insult or criticism, but thats an extremely immature way of dealing with it.
Just tell him calmly and CLEARLY that it bothers you. Trying to go out and hurt him worse is just a sure path to self destruction. Guys are usually pretty oblivious, he probably has no clue that he's hurting your feelings when he does.
Whats worse is that you deliberately try and hurt his feelings to get back at him. Good way to show how much you love someone, Good job.
NOT.
Just talk to him, and be calm and cool about it.
2006-07-27 12:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its really like that. You start getting very sensitive on little things when you start loving the person so much. Try giving him some space. Make him miss you this time. If it doesn't work out, then look for a new one, or why don't you lay low first with relationships and start spending time with yourself. =D
2006-07-27 12:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by sharkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 09:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem.But my boyfriend takes me everywhere with him even if he goes out with his friends.But when his friends come over and stay long or when he talks more to them it makes me mad.I try to understand hes a;always with me and he needs guy talk sometimes just so he knows hes still a man.I guess its a bit jealousy.I love having my boyfriend all to myself.
2006-07-27 12:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you want him to focus on you 24/7, which is impossible for anyone to do. He does have a life outside of you... and you have one outside of him. Try to remember that and you should be fine.
Also, when he does something that makes you feel bad, tell him!
2006-07-27 12:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to control yourself, maybe you should find someone that you can talk to or sometimes just writing in a journal, just to get your emotions out.
2006-07-27 12:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAN GIRL I'VE BEEN THERE SO MANY TIMES. I BASICALLY TALK TO HIM AND LET HIM KNOW WHATS UP AND HOW I'M FEELIN AND STUFF LIKE THAT. IF TALKIN TO HIM ABOUT IT DOESN'T WORK THEN I DON'T THINK YOU SHOULD STAY WITH HIM IF HE HURTS YOU LIKE THAT, YOU KNOW. HOPE IT HELPS YOU OUT A BIT.
2006-07-27 12:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by GigglesGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For any relationship to work both of you have to be truthful. Speak your mind. If he/she is too stubborn or "pig-headed" to listen; the relationship is doomed.
2006-07-27 12:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋