About 2 years ago when my mom, my brother, and i moved into our new home, my mom decided her friend was going to move in too. He was ok as a friend but not as a roommate. They then began calling themselves boyfriend and girlfriend. My brother was 16 and i was 13, we just wanted a happy family. only problem is, my mom's boyfriend is a complete know-it-all. on a few occasions, i have gotten out my dictionary to prove him wrong and he still claimed he was correct. My brother and i have disliked him since. He is also is HUGE show-off. A few friends and i were hanging out in the alley behind my house one afternoon and he was there and he began embarassing me so much. He is a HUGE mooch. He has no job, no money, no car insurance and crack head friends. He thinks he can run my house and he continuously tries to act like my father whom i have not seen in 13 years. I don't know what to do. My brother is now 18 and will be moving out soon and i don't know how i'm going to be able to hear him.
2006-07-27 11:57:52 · 12 answers · asked by redgrlray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, he may not be physically abusive but he does call me names and call me fat for no reason. And he calls me fat even though I'm an athlete and i only weigh 110 pounds. He even makes fun of me or being blond but i can't help that it's natural. I'm at my wits end here. I'm clueless on what to do.
2006-07-27 13:04:29 · update #1
Gosh that sucks. He is the one with the problem and you have to live with him. Be the bigger person and ignore him.
And where is your mothers brain? She is that one who puts up with him. You could call family services in your town and complain about the crack head friends..
Talk nicely to your mother and say. mom I love you and would like a happier life style. What can we do to get that?
Maybe you have a family in the community that you can stay with.
Concerning the dictionary thing with your mom's bf. YOU know you are right and he is an ASSSSSS. This might be hard but when he is overbearing and tries to get you in to a fight. You need to get yourself in a Zen like stage. You become totally unphased by his stupid rantings. You are so far above him and you won't waste your energy on him. Because he loudly shouts to the world that he is an idiot and you are not. Let him continually make a fool of himself. You aren't touchable by his foolishness, when you feel like crumbling and lowering yourself to his level than go for a walk.anything to get away from him.
We konw you have NO control over him. But dont let him control you. You can make choices to make a better life for yourself. Get a good education so that you do'nt have to settle for creepy guys like your mom's bf.
2006-07-27 12:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds horrible.. =T.. sometimes divorced mothers are really lonely, and get very attached to a new man regardless of if he is good for her, or the whole family. that is sad, cuz the family is most important as a whole..if he is making one person happy but the rest miserable..... yikes. would u say ur mom is not really a strong person? or when it comes to relationships she is easily bossed around? perhaps she likes he is "know it all" cuz she feels that he can make decisions for her. hopefully u can talk to her , one on one, that there are things about him that bother you. let her know that u care about her happiness, but that u don't appreciate sometimes how he treats u, or makes fun of u, or doesn't admit when he is wrong, and that u don't quite feel he is ur father and yet he tries to take on that role. if she is understanding, she will hopefully at least try to hear ur side. if she is biased against him, then it'll be harder for u but at least u can find out where she stands. that way, if u have to move out soon or eventually, u'll know how close u can be to ur mom, or u might have to wait until she realizes on her own that the guy isn't that great... =T.. good luck. i hope u and ur brother remain close, and that u don't let that guy bring u down. remember ur mom wants to be happy, and sometimes that allows people to color the truth; she may think u guys are in good hands cuz he "tries" to parent you. take care, try to talk to her first calmly before making accusations.
2006-07-27 12:03:21 · answer #2 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom, tell her in a calm tone that you think the guy is a loser (not exactly like that) but explain his faults and explain he is not your dad and you'd appreciate if he stopped pretending to be just for bonus points with your mom. Alot of people a unfortunately "know it all"s and cannot admit being wrong. Ask your mom why she loves this man and lets him leech off of her. Maybe you are just missing his good qualities. If this man continues to irritate you, maybe try telling him you would appreciate your privacy and avoid him at ALL costs. When you are 16 you can get a car and license yourself, provided you get a job. I hope you consider this and dont blame your mom for everything. This guy is a loser and maybe your mom doesnt see it. I'm sorry I hope you find the help you are looking for!
2006-07-27 12:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by ChrissyLicious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore him. Don't hang around the house so much. Your old enough for a job(you'd be about 16 right now?). So go get one. It gets you out of the house and gives you cash to spend on your free time to get out of the house.
It's easy to deal with know it alls, just don't ask him any questions. If he should offer something, just say 'Oh, OK' and walk away. Give him no reaction. Just listen to what he says and nod. don't bother trying to prove anything to him, just ignore him.
The embarrassing stuff...well, don't hang around the house. The alley behind your house is too close.
Don't waste your time running to mom, she loves him and he can do no wrong in her eyes. If she has to pick between her BF and her daughter....she Will Pick Him(it sucks, but it's true).
2006-07-27 12:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. I think as long as he's not harming you, then you should just go with it. My mom has had TONS of boyfirends rolling in and out of the house, and after a while you just have to live with it. Because you're still a kid, you have no rights. I know that sounds dumb but it's sadly true. Have you tried talking to you mom about it? Otherwise, try to ingore him. If he's getting a rise out of you and he knows it, he's just gonna keep on being a smartass and everything else. Hope it helps.
2006-07-27 12:03:39 · answer #5 · answered by fanepretentions 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him about every subject that you know about and once he says he doesnt know just start saying everything about it
or if he thinks he knows about a subject ask him everythin about it
then atleast one answer will come up "i dont know" thatill be great
then say "tats surprising"
i no how u feel my sisters bf is a know it all and i did the same thing and it worked well he shutup lol
dont ignore him yet though when he calls you names
confront him about it and then if that doesnt work call him a name back that will really leave him scarred hehe
then ignore him
2006-07-27 12:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by IMNOTOKAY!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to your mother?
Her primary concern should be your (and your brother's) welfare,
not her new friend.
Yes, she may "poo poo" you to begin with, but if you keep
coming up with examples of his behavior, eventually, she'll
have to take you seriously.
However, the world is filled with first class idiots. You will
have to learn to deal with them - even when they live with you.
If he isn't abusing you, then really all you have to complain
about is your mother's poor taste.
2006-07-27 12:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you ask your brother to let you stay wit him since you cant stand that guy so much.
your mother should be more considerate to you and maybe have a talk to her bf.
2006-07-27 12:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by casj2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Maybe you should talk to your mom about it,and tell her how you feel. Good Luck!
2006-07-27 12:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by purple_dogs_bed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only laughing cause your mom is off the hook ; ) Roommate!!!1 HAHHAHA
2006-07-27 12:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by caped_up_superman_lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋