He doesn't pull his pants down or anything. Everytime I turn around his hands are down his pants. He says he does it because it feels good and makes him happy. I don't want him to think that playing with it is a bad thing just a natural one. I have had many talks with him but nothing seems to work. Help.
2006-07-27 11:42:29 · 20 answers · asked by ericwgrossman 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He is a boy. Boys do that.
I was in the Walmart the other day and a boy was looking at toys with his hand pinching his penis. His mother scorned him and told him, "I told you to quit that", to which he replied he was sorry. I could tell he didn't even know what he was doing wrong.
My son who is now 21, spent a whole lot of time with his penis in his hand. He started when he was an infant, pinching it, flicking it and it went on clear to about the 2nd or 3rd grade. He would get excited and immediately go for the most comforting thing he had, his penis. He would get all excited about something and grab his penis.
You just gotta accept it as a boy thing. Its a freudian sort of event. Ignore him. He is normal.
2006-07-27 15:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My little brother would do the same thing all the time when he was five. My parents told him "If you keep playing with that thing, pretty soon it will fall off." It worked and my family has never shared more laughs over anything else in our lives.
Now, i'm not saying to tell him that, but you just need to, and i understand you already did this, talk to him...correctly. When you sit him down and everything is quiet, he thinks he is trouble, even if you don't mean to seem that way. Just...talk to him in the living room (when its just the two of you). Talk calmly and don't use any words he might not know. This conversation is also best suited for a male role figure to handle.
2006-07-27 11:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by nmk9543 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he circumcised? If not there may be a little irritation under the foreskin that is causing him to touch it so much. It is normal for little boys to play with themselves; although, I would think that if they are making it bleed they would certainly stop. How long does it last? LOL until death I guess. Try bib overalls, they are harder to remove. If he continues and the bleeding does also, I would take him to the doctor as that is not normal. Maybe he has a bit of a bladder infection? While it sounds strange, touching himself feels good even at an early age, God made our bodies to respond to certain touches, he did not install an on/off switch that determines at what age it is appropriate.
2016-03-27 02:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that this kind of happy feeling if for him to do in the privacy of his own room of the bathroom. If he insists on continuing he needs to stay home or go to his room for a time out. He is old enough to understand that there are certain things that are acceptable in public and certain things that are not good manners, like picking your nose, or soiling your pants.
2006-07-27 13:34:47 · answer #4 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my boys ' that is a bedroom toy or a bathroom toy'. I would set up a reward for him if he abstains in public. Something small like an extra 15 minutes at bedtime or a mini chocolate bar. It is like any other habit and may take him a while to unlearn. Be patient and consistent and it will get better.
2006-07-27 13:01:01 · answer #5 · answered by ppqppq10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 4 yr old sometimes does this and I will ask him if he needs to use the restroom, if he says no I tell him to stop touching himself that is something to only do in private. If he doesn't stop I send him to his room so he can have privacy. Not that he needs the privacy but I want him to understand that we don't want to see it. I have a 7 yr old and a couple of his friends "touch" themselves alot and I find it quite bothersome. So i am glad that you see that it is inappropriate and are trying to do something about it. I'm pretty good friends with 2 of the mother's who son's do this and I don't think they think it is a problem!
2006-07-27 11:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by beth l 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a therapist, and start paying attention to anybody who has been around him.
Such actions are often signs of sexual abuse.
Now, assuming that is not the case, you may still have to tell him that it is not acceptable to do that in public. Students have been sued for sexual harrassment in Elementary school in the US.
2006-07-27 11:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by bistekoenighasteangst 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL, Been there dealt with that. It's more embarrassing to us then them. I kept telling him that its inappropriate to do that when we are out. Then it's not saying "that's bad" but "it's not a good time for that here" And I'll tell you that they know what that word means they hear it more and more in school at earlier ages. So don't be afraid to us it. Good Luck!
2006-07-28 06:48:29 · answer #8 · answered by kay2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep trying. Make sure you explain that it is okay to do that in private, but it really isn't okay to do in public. Hopefully he will understand that and stop doing that in public. Good luck.
2006-07-27 11:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by WenckeBrat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about having his dad or a man that is close to him talk to him about this? Perhaps a male take on it may make an impact.
2006-07-27 12:44:23 · answer #10 · answered by mlm1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋