there is this girl i like i have know her for over 2 years now, but did not start having feelings for her as more than friends untill about 1 year ago. we have became friends. and i am not sure wheather she likes me or not. she flirts with me usually, and when ever i see her she always smiles and waves then comes over and starts talking to me usually ignoring her friends. she also laughs at pretty much ever joke i say even if it isnt funny. i also catch her staring at me and she then turns away real fast then a few seconds later she looks back at me and smiles. i do not know whether she knows i like her or not. but one day who we like came up and she asked who i liked and i wouldnt tell her, she then jokingly said i know who you like its me then laughed but she said she didnt like me. please help do you think she likes me or should i just move on. i dont want to just ask her out b/c i dont want it to ruin our friend ship. she also asks me alot if i like her friends or not thx in advanc
2006-07-27 11:32:34 · 20 answers · asked by bigbob33 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to me sounds like she is fishing to see if you like her too. The time when she says she thinks you like her but she doesn't like you, I think you just didn't say "yea, you are right" fast enough. She wanted to cover by saying "I don't like you". She asks you if you like her friends just because...yea, some of us do that. Yea, you won't get it, it's a girl thing. anyway, tell her that you like her. don't joke about it, she will get confused. she might say "what are you talking about" or "stop messing with me" or something along that line. don't let her get away with it, make her tell you if she likes you or not. well, if she doesn't like you, here is what you do. 1. tell her you respect her decision. 2. reassure her that you want to continue the friendship. 3. DROP THE SUBJECT! 4. resume normal activities. you know, friday night drink, sunday tennis, whatever you two do as friends before this happens, continue to do it. 5. Stop the "play flirt", at least for a while. Good luck!
2006-07-27 11:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by musi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, buddy, that must suck. i totally know what you're talking about. i was friends w/ a guy and it was exactly like that, so, he emailed me and told me i was hot. and that i was smart and beautiful. and i really didn't like being called hot by him because he joked like that all the time. but this was right after i told him about the problems i was having w/ guys. I'm not saying to wait until she's vulnerable and use that for your advantage. What I'm trying to say is when she's having a bad day, try to cheer her up, and if you can't figure out how to make her feel better, let her talk to you. if she' s anything like me, she'll tell you everything. and when she's having a good day, make it better. a girl wants to know that a guy is there for her. and if you end up going out, let her know that you guys can always be friends. it'll make her feel happier than she ever has.
2006-07-27 18:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by smalltownshortee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she does like you, but its a valid point not to ruin your friendship.
In this life we dont get many chances - sometimes if we dont seize moments, can end up asking "what if?" forever. Talk to her, a true friend will talk to you, no matter her feelings, If you can both get over the embarrassment factor - and talk - at least you will both know where u stand.
2006-07-27 18:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by crystalblue10000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come out and ask her. Tell her that you notice that she flirts with you alot and seem to really take a liking to you so you want to know whats up. Ask her out and see what she says. The worse she can say is no and then you know that it will remail strictly a friendship.
2006-07-27 18:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she said no because there was a potentially awkward situation. plus, she sounds like how I act around crush, of course I wounldn't say it because I think he knows and doesn't like me back that way, I'm gushy over him but it isn't returned. So I guess you should ask her alone.
2006-07-27 18:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Psychia22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg .....Give me a break, The girl likes you alot.
Go on and ask her out to the movies or nice dinner.I am sure she is waiting for you to make the first move.How many more hints do you want.Go on and good luck:-)
2006-07-27 18:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend going up to her and telling her that you need to have a serious conversation with her. tell her how you feel. and mean it. if she doesnt like you she will say so. if she does, you'll get a completely different reaction. I highly doubt that sharing your feelings with her will hurt your friendship. its obvious she cares about you. the question is how much.
2006-07-27 18:41:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did the same exsct thing to the guy i like. he was asking me who i liked in our class and i said nobody then he asked about him and i said he was ok but not really so i know i already ruined it so aske her out
2006-07-27 18:41:56 · answer #8 · answered by BrOwN eYe'D cHiCa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it kinda sounds like she might be interested in you more than just a friend. so why not ask her out and see what happens
2006-07-27 18:36:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she does. some girls say they dont like you because they want you to make the first move. i know its weird, but thats how it is sometimes.
2006-07-27 18:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋