My bf is 37 and I am 23, we have been together for about 10 months. He is very loving and sweet person. We enjoy each other and we have a lot in commin but he is a very sexual person, if it was up to him he would do it everyday about 3 times a day or at lease twice a day. And, I on the other hand wouldn't mind it every other day. I give it to him at lease once a day. I sometime joke around with him about maybe he's a nympho and he thinks it normal. I love him very much and I have talked with him about this but he said that he feels that I am rejecting him and I don't want him. So is this normal guys? Do you want/need to have sex everyday? How can I make him understand without hurting his feeling or making him feel I am rejecting him to understad we don't to have sex everyday? or Sometimes I just not in the mood? Any suggestions?
2006-07-27 11:32:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay, This is actually a big deal.
First of all, most women would envy the hell out of you for your guy.
Second of all, if you don't keep up with him, some of those women aren't going to HAVE to envy you, cause he's going to find other people to satisfy himself with.
Be really happy that he's honest enough with you to tell you that he feels rejected. Most guys would just keep it to themselves and let it build.
No, its not that common, but you scored yourself a superman, or you are just exceptionally exciting to him.
The only way that you can tell him without hurting his feelings is to be honest and tell him that you can't keep up with him, that he's worn you out and you need a break.
And then start studying up on polygomous relationships, cause I guarantee you that if he's THAT oversexed, he's going to get it from somewhere, and at least in an open relationship, you can control where that extra is coming from.
2006-07-27 11:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by cloaked30m 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This is not really normal in some sense. Yes, people have different sexual needs, but your BF gave you the answer when he said he feels you're rejecting him when you don't want to. A true BF who REALLY loves you respects your level of desire, and if you don't want to then don't. Now, here's the answer. Your BF equates sex with acceptance of himself, and this is a lack of self esteem and insecurity within himself, whether he understands this at all or not. You or anyone else will NEVER be able to give him enough because he will demand more to fulfill the need that he has inside-and it's not sex he needs, it is self confidence. It is self-acceptance. Work on that first. He is sucking your energy dry to feed that fear of rekjection. He told you clearly to manipulate you a bit, and that's what they do. He's not a bad person. he's just a scared one that no will love him. Look for that pattern in his life and you will find it rather easily.
2006-07-27 18:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by mnbadger78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The quick answer is yes. We, men, like to have sex everyday. If it was possible, we'd like to have it every hour like a clock. However, there's a limit. Try to make a game of it. Set up a "time" and a "theme". Take a little control of the situation but don't tell him. If you do it in a way that he still gets what he wants and you get what you want, you'll both be happy.
2006-07-27 19:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm still a virgin (16) so if my advice doesn't work then i don't know.
here is an ideal. how about you do it every once and a while but make sure you give him more pleasure at one time. So he will still have sex.
yes guys want sex everyday all day if possible. but there has to be more then just sex.
i hope i did my best answering your question. Guys won't die if they don't have sex.
-Jesse
2006-07-27 18:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Welvis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to look somewhere else soon, it's not your fault but if you don't give it to him more than he'll find a way to get it. Sorry. Unless he really loves you and changes his ways and just accepts your feelings. I know I accepted my girls feelings I wanted it all day long everyday. 7/365. I'm 38 my girl, 25>
2006-07-27 18:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by freedomfightr67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all in one's libido, some are stronger than others, as it seems to be in your case.
He is wrong to reproach you, if your libido is less than his. There is very little you or he can do, to change that.
He has to accept you as you are, in everything, not just your sex drive.
He is driving you away, with his insistance that you meet his sex drive. Why doesn't he try to live with yours. It's all a give and take, with relationships, he seems to be taking, more than he is giving.
If he's not willing to make that small sacrifice, then I see no other option, than for you to leave him, and find someone who is more compatible with you.
2006-07-27 18:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love 2-3 times a day but it isn't happening. I would never cheat though.
2006-07-27 19:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you in this problem is a source of communication called talk. Tell him that you guys aren't married yet . But what sucks for you most is that you still have a life in front of you. Enjoy your young age! Besides, you don't want to get pregnant with a guy that's not your husband because: What if you guys break up? What will your baby think? and What will your future husband think?Think about it.............................................!
2006-07-27 18:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by just a radom girl in this earth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex Drive varries from people to people... prime example being the both of u! come to a compromise cos it could turn ugly really fast!!
2006-07-27 18:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Evan R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want sex every day, if we don't get it we masturbate
2006-07-27 18:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋