My son is leaviing home across the country to train for a job. He has never been on his own, and although he says he is excited to go. I think he is becoming angry at me for him having to leave the nest.
He has been ruthlessly short temperd and somewhat violent. normally not himself.
2006-07-27 11:31:49 · 8 answers · asked by Charles 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is acting out his fears, and his anxieties about all this. Acknowledge that you are proud of him to be doing this, assuming you are, and that he has become such a a great man even at that young of an age. Tell him it's ok to be scared, who wouldn't be, and yet he has such great courage to do this and that you're so impressed. He'll calm down. New things are scary, but exciting at the same time, and sometimes it's hard to keep those two opposing feelings at the same time.
2006-07-27 11:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by mnbadger78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's hitting you, you need to get that stopped. Even it it means putting him is jail for the night. If it's just backtalking, tell him you know that he is unsure of himself and that you will be there for him and that he can call you at any time. It seems that most children, especially boys, are not really mature at 17.5, even if they are going to college. Training for a job is a good first step.
2006-07-27 18:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all... 17.5?
ok, anyway....
you need to explain to him that he cant stay with you forever. Wow...across the country is a bit too far. Don't start him off that way. Is he even going to college!? thats very important. I think you should support him until he's out of college.
2006-07-27 18:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
new fears he is facing or about to and he does not know how to handle them. ask him to sit down and talk about it without fear or judgement and see how both of you can deal with it. suggest a cell phone or calling card or other ways of keeping in touch. and tell him to call as much as possible until he feels comfortable being where he is at. also exchange lots of pictures to keep him in touch with day to day things that happen at home. and let him know you support him and love him and leaving the nest early is ok..
2006-07-27 19:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he have to leave the nest?
He is scared, approach with lots of TLC, understanding, and make sure he knows you are there if he needs you...
2006-07-27 18:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him:
suck it up
grow up
he's very near a legal adult
get educated
get informed
GET A JOB!
2006-07-27 18:36:42 · answer #6 · answered by Pobept 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
angermanagment classes always helps and talk with him and DO NOT be soft with him get him to listen no matter how loud u need to get
2006-07-27 18:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
armed with a gun and some Paxil. :-P
2006-07-27 18:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by heterophobicgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋