I think i'm depressed or having a nervous breakdown!?

Question

I need help...I'm going thru a lot w/my husband not being faithful, and being a compulsive liar..stress of staying at home everyday with an 18 month old & a 3 month old...and just finding out that my stepson could die in the next year...I need help...what should I do? Should I go to the hospital....I'm physically sick...my body is in pain...and my head is spinning.

Answer 1

Yes, you should at least go see a doctor. I and my sister were having anxiety and panic attacks around the same time and I had to go to the doctor and get medication for it (first time I ever even went to a dr.) and it did help. I was on generic prozac which helped with anxiety and depression and xanax which helped with mostly just stress and anxiety. I only took those until the prozac started kicked in and then I rarely needed them. I only stayed on the medication 6 months and went off cold turkey with no bad side effects. Sometimes we need a little help to get through certain overwhelming phases of our lives. Just make sure once you do get help that you have a plan to move forward in a positive direction. I understand you have children who need you and the best thing you can do is to take care of their mother.

Answer 2

You Need To Find Someone Who You Trust To Talk To, Go Stay At A Friends Or Parents home For A while. You Have Two children To Care For And Who Desperately Need You. You Have To Be Strong For Them, And Also Take Care Of Yourself , As Hard As This Maybe Right Now. Go Talk To Your Family Doctor See What He Thinks Is Going On With Your Body. It Possible That It's Just All The Stress Your Under. Get Out Of This Relationship Before It Does Any More Damage To You Or Your Children. Hang In Their You'll Be Just Fine.

Answer 3

It might do you well to go to the hospital. Youre not psychotic or anything, though, so I would suggest going to see a therapist first. Youe going through alot, and might have post partum depression to compound it, so yes I think professional psychological help is indicated. There are medicines also, that they can give you, to make you feel better. Also, try walking every day. That might cheer you up and help you to work off some of that stress. A massage could be good, also. I am a massage therapist, and I will tell you- sometimes a professional massage can make all the difference. Again, youre not crazy. Youre human.
I dont bame you at all for being so depressed. Ive been there, sweetie. try to keep it together, for the kids, and then go see a therapist and let it all go there. I wish I had done that. I had a scary night that I had suicidal thoughts, and sounded just like you are describing yourself. Just dont do anything to hurt yourself, please, and go find a counselor to talk to.

Heres the suicide and depression hotline numbers:

http://suicidehotlines.com/national.html
1-800-SUICIDE
1-800- 273-TALK

Also, cheating is domestic violence. You might need to call the DV hotline, and make sure of how safe you are. Heres the number:
1-800-799-SAFE
Heres the internet address:
http://www.ndvh.org/

Remember Laci Peterson... Not trying to scare you or anything, but cheating is not okay, and it can occassionally lead to severe violence, possily death.

Also, finally- be proud of yourself. You are a dignified woman who knows what she deserves, and how much she can take. IT took alot of guts to come here asking for help. Please be sure to follow through with getting it.

Good Luck, sweetie. Dont worry, everything will settle down soon. And good luck to your stepson, bless his little heart.

Answer 4

I agree with many of the suggestions, I want to add that it is important to have small and kind of immediate things you can do to improve your situation, divorce and such is long term but you need the short term help first before you can even think about or handle that. So I think, call a crisis line first, most cities have one in fact in Ohio where I live now most cities have 211 phone number, its like 411 information but for mental health type issues, try it might work where you are. Or call the domestic violence hotline. Mental abuse (the compulsive lying and cheating) *IS* abuse, you are entitled to help. That is something you can do right now, and they will give you resources and help you make a plan. Also going to the doctor and getting mental health help, I have been on both zoloft and prozac and they really work.

Answer 5

I agree with the idea of divorce. Of course it is easier said than done, but it sound like you should do it. If he is cheating, you will get the better end of the deal.

Once you are rid of him, with three kids, you should contact you local welfare department (job and family services) about Medicaid and Food Stamps, and for your son who is sick, look into filing for Supplemental Security Income with the Social Security administration.

Finally, if you have insurance, and that insurance does not scrutinize ER visits, go to the hospital. If not, try a free clinic or an urgent care facilty to get a diagnosis for less money (ER bills will NOT decrease stress...).

If you have relatives, you may even ask them to care for your children during the divorce process. The less stress you have and the more you "keep it together", the better you will do during any legal proceedings.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Its okay to get help if you really need it. Zoloft is what I take for depression and anxiety. It works great . I do not freak out as much. I am sorry to hear that you have all of this going on right now. Just email if you need to talk. I am also a stay at home mom. It can be really stressful at times. especially when a child is sick. Go to your doctor and tell him what is going on . He will find out what medication is going to work the best.

Answer 7

And your heart is broken. Broken trust is a horrible thing to deal with. I don't know if you are religious or not, but I have been going through the same things, and I have decided to forgive him, and I know that God will forgive me, because this is what he asked of me. However, adultry is the one sin that the Lord says we can divorce over. You must concentrate on what is good for you and your children. Can you and your husband get beyond this? Is he a good man, that made a terrible mistake? I think you should turn to the Lord, and pray on this. You are just terribly hurting. No, I don't think you are having a nervous breakdown, and you don't want those kinds of brands on you if you have to try to seek custody of your little ones. Please, try to get some counciling,and pray ...but don't put anything on yourself that might come back and haunt you and cost you your custody of those children.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

hospital is an option. i'm sorry. just remember it's not your fault he's cheating. you're gonna have to divorce him to stay sane. do not let these stupid docs tell you your stepson will die. he might have a chance of living. With God anything is possible. What you are going thru is stressful. But you'll get thru it. do it for the kids. they need you. if you have to dump him, do it for your sanity. you are strong and use your inner will to fight in this crazy world. holistic-online.com helps deal with stress.

Answer 10

You should probably call a crisis hotline and go to a crisis center. In many cities, they're open 24 hours a day, and they offer help at no charge. Try to find one in the phonebook or online yellow pages, and if you can't, try calling 911 and see if you can get a referral. It sounds like you're under a lot of pressure, and your kids need you, so please get help as soon as possible.