I am a young single mother and I noticed that men run away when they realize this. WHY?

Question

Im considered a very goodlokking person but that does not matter to them. They still run for their lives.

Answer 1

The guys you are probably running away are young. I was a young single mother myself. Most men are not ready for kids and the responsiblities that come with kids until they are pushing 30. But don't give up, you have to remember you are no longer looking for a lover, you are looking for a father as well. He will come. Keep your eyes open and your heart on your kid

Answer 2

Well maybe you're not meeting the right men. It also depends on how many kids you have. As a male, I have no problem meeting and having a serious relationship with a woman who has 1 or even 2 kids, but anymore than that and I have to say no. Also, some men just don't want the responsibility of raising someone else's children. I don't know what your situation is. Are you an unwed single mother or are you divorced? That may be an important issue to some men as well. If you are divorced with children you may have better luck with men in the same situation as you, someone who knows the responsibilities of parenting. Another problem is that once children are involved, it takes time away from the relationship. Most men will want you to concentrate on them not on your child. As selfish as that sounds, it's just how it is. Then you have to take into consideration the fears of the man that what if your kid/kids don't like him, but he is mad about you. Who will come first, him or your kids?

Answer 3

Men are almost always afraid of getting involved with a woman with "baggage" and to alot of people, kids can be baggage. Maybe they feel if they get involved with you, they have to play the role of daddy to your kids...which is probably not the case at all but that most likely is the reason most of them might turn away. No worries, some men out there, though they may be hard to find, actually enjoy children..so dont loose hope. Your kids are not baggage, they are wonderful and eventually you will find a man who feels the same.

Answer 4

Three reasons why I run....

1) No matter what your son/daughter will always take first place in your life (as they should!). Now, I will give you first place in my life, but I expect the same in return.
2) The father is always going to be in your life. You will always be dealing with him one way or another... and I don't want to know or see your ex's, especially if they are your baby's daddy.
3) If things work out and we decide to settle down and marry, your child will always be working against me. It is only natural for the child to want to see their parents together. I will be viewed as an intruder and he will be wanting to break us up.

I am being honest and telling you why I run from a relationship with a single parent. Of course that is just my opinion... But don't worry eventually you will find somebody better than us, who is willing to overlook the reasons I gave you.

Take Care

Eric E

Answer 5

Because there's no woman in this situation who isn't looking for someone to help her bear this burden. Yes, I say burden because I, personally, don't like kids. At least not today's children. This can also put a big big big damper on the time you can spend with someone. Someone with a kid isn't going to have time to go out to the club or to the bar. Someone with a kid can't get freaky and kinky because they might wake up the kid. Just by being in a relationship with someone who has a kid, instantly your dating life revolves around that kid. Not only that, but a new born baby is how big?? Can you say "like throwing a hotdog down a hallway?" I don't care what exercises she claims to be doing, they're not gonna help. Ever. Once you have a kid, just consider yourself out of the game and concentrate on Star Wars or Dungeons and Dragons or whatever it is people who aren't ever having sex again concentrate on!

Answer 6

Are you talking about your looks or your kids? If it's about your kids, that's a pretty sad thing. I'm a young single father and am worried about that very thing. I don't see anything wrong with it. Of course, your kids and you are a package deal. However, it sounds to me those other guys don't understand that they are dating you and not your kids. Meeting the kids come later. Meeting and getting to know you comes first. That guy/those guys need to understand that. If they don't and just bolt, they just aren't worth your time. You'll always be a mom, but you have needs, too.

Answer 7

Probably because if they enter into a relationship, it's a big commitment. They know that if they marry you, they have to become a dad right away. Also, they may percieve you (because some women do this) as looking for a dad, not both a husband and a dad. Kind of like a job interview, you know?

Answer 8

cuz you have kids, and most guys dont want the whole package...sorry. Find a single father that knows what your going through that is looking for a good mom for his kids and at the same time your looking for a good dad for yours. It will work out, it will just take more time, cause you just cant pick out any guy out of the croud anymore. He has to be a really caring and probably and older man.

Answer 9

most men think your looking for a father figure for the child thus bringing on responsibility. Some guys have the old school idea that because its not there own kid its not right. I wouldnt care if you had children if I was in love with you.

Answer 10

They do not want to help raise someone elses children.Most single moms with children make them the top priority. I mean do you really have time to commit to a man? I was in a singles club for a few years and 99% of the men/women with children said their children were top priority. Who can compete with that?