On a 14 yr old going out with or living with a 20 yr old?
2006-07-27 11:15:57 · 44 answers · asked by Nena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say the cops need to get involved. The 20 year old needs to go to prison. The 14 year old needs to get some counseling for the damage that has been done to her.
2006-07-27 11:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your life and you do what you feel is right. But, you should think about this. You're only 14...you don't know what you want in life yet, you don't know who you are or want to be. No matter how mature you are for your age, a 14 year old with a 20 year old just doesn't seem right. It is also possible that the 20 year old may not know what they want either. Don't tie yourself down. You still have your entire life ahead of you. Again, I don't know the situation but I wouldn't do it. If they really love you, they will wait until you are an appropriate age. Good luck and I'm sure you'll do what's best for YOU...remember, at 14 you're number one and you need to look out for yourself and accomplish your dreams and ambitions.
2006-07-27 11:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not just no, but hell no.
I know first hand that girls between
the ages of 14 and 16 are about the same
emotional age as men between the ages of
19 and 22, but this is no reason whatsoever
for a young impressionable blossoming
girl to be involved with a man.
Living together means having sex together
and though the girl may be intelligent enough to protect herself, there is a much greater risk of becoming a mother much too young.
A 14 year old has her whole life a head of her, so many years to date, shack up, and marry.
There is NO reason, not even financially, for someone so young to be intimately involved, let alone LIVE with a man or boy of any age.
If this girl in question is you, please PLEASE don't learn the hard way. Look at others mistakes, realize there is so so so much more to life than relationships with men.
2006-07-27 11:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a 32 yr old when I was your age. It is not the best thing to do. Unless you want a lot of pain and heartbreak. especially if you are a virgin. I have also been with 20 yr olds and I am now 16. It is illegal and so they are going to want to have nothing to do with you when tey are with other people their age. Just don't do it. You may think you know what your getting into but you don't
2006-07-27 11:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
living no, do not think at 14 they would be ready to go down that lane.
going out maybe ( because some times you can have a very old 14 year old and a very young 20 year old) but there can be no sex of any kind no sleep overs and only if there parents have met the man and are happy for them to see each other.
2006-07-27 11:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by jetshadow25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you're 18 you've got to stick with others who are 18+. If you like someone who is younger wait until they've turned 18.
As for those under 18 stick with people that are no more than 2 years different than yourself.
Seriously either way it is not good especially for the younger of the two because no matter how mature you think you are in the next couple of years you'll realize how immature you were. Trust me I'm still finding out how immature I am.
For the older of the group it seems to me that they are desperate. I'm 18 and I've met some attractive girls who were 15, but there was no way I'd go for them because I'd rather try to get someone closer to my stage of life.
Once you get older 25+ or so the age gap matters less and less so if you're interested in someone younger or older give it a few years and in the meantime try dating in your own age group.
2006-07-27 11:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by mudsplitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will the 14 year old is a little young to be living or going out with a 20 year old, but if they are in love then i guess. but i would think that they should go out with someone there own age really
2006-07-27 11:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by stace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not cool. If the 14 & 20 year olds are having relations, or sex, thats called statutory rape. And what is wrong with the 20 year old that he has to rob the craddle for a 14 year old?
2006-07-27 11:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by fennamason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the 20 year old is a pedophile and should be in prison and the 14 year olds parents should be charged with being incredibly stupid! Some serious a$$ kickin needs to happen here.
2006-07-27 11:18:55 · answer #9 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nana you are out of your mind if this is you, the 14 year old.
Any 20 year old interested in a girl as young as you has big problems and is no real man.
Plus, it's statuatory rape if he and you have sex.
Stop fooling around and stop going out NOW.
Where are your parents to allow this?
You are even too young to date an age mate much less a guy this old.
2006-07-27 11:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋