I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn't love him anymore. But since then, I have been really lonely, and i miss him alot. He is already getting with another girl, even though he said he was madly in love with me. It hurts, and i don't understand why, since i was sure i don't love him the same way any more...so why do i feel this way?
2006-07-27 11:10:32 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wasn't my first boyfriend...i have had a bunch before him
2006-07-27 11:15:07 · update #1
Probably because you miss having a boyfriend in general. Perhaps you dont exactly miss him, just the fact that you are single, alone and have no boyfriend. Since it is still recent, your going to feel that way. Dont worry, there are plenty of guys out there, but for the time being, hangout with friends and have a good time...enjoy being single, have a girls night...basically keep busy that way you wont be missing anyone anymore. You'll be having a blast with friends and meeting new people...you wont even feel lonely. I hope I helped, good luck!
2006-07-27 11:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by LovableLibra84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first boyfriend right? Don't worry everybody feels that connection to their first boy/girlfriend. You feel that way because he has moved on and you don't feel like you have. I had the same problem when my first gf and me broke up. Was a long time afterward and all I could think about was her. The only way you are going to stop having these feelings is if you meet someone new. Get back on the horse.. All those old sayings lol. Get out there and find another guy and you'll feel better. Or if you want theres other things to turn to. Big thing is not to worry about these feelings they are completly natural and will go away with time.
2006-07-27 18:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by freeze_guy_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's over you...nobody wants to know that someone doesn't like them anymore. I have felt the same way many times. You broke it off, he moved on, and you haven't. It's that simple. But, look at it this way: If he gets over being "madly in love" that fast, it probably wasn't that deep anyways.
2006-07-27 18:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're suffering from "Forbidden fruit" syndrome. When you were with him, you didn't want to be with him anymore. But now, he has moved on and you haven't, and you didn't think that it would turn out that way, right? The best thing to do is to let him go, because if you try to get back with him just because he is over you, you will end up right back where you started. Get to know yourself and what you want, that way when you start seeing someone else seriously, you won't be as likely to fall in and out of love as quickly.
2006-07-27 18:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by holleygirl11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because you made a decision without thinking it through and it blew up in your face. Now you have to suffer the consequence of your actions. In time you may find that you were right at first, that you didn't love him and you just need to focus your attention on something else. Sounds like you either pissed him off, or he didn't love you as much as he said. You can try talking to him, and then you'll just have to accept whatever happens after that.
2006-07-27 18:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you are always going to have feelings for someone that you truely loved, especially your first love, because you gave that person you're heart and you can never take all of that back (if you understand what i'm trying to say) if your really sure that you dont love him anymore, you should not put yourself in a position where you're around him all the time and can see that and make yourself feel bad
2006-07-27 18:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by ...here in my garden of magic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess because you are so used to being with him and its hard to see some body else with him. If you think you have enough feelings for him then go get him but if not get a new boy friend there are plenty of guys out there but it may take a wile to find the right one..
2006-07-27 18:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by lizlorry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, you messed up to put it harshly. Sorry I don't mean to be a B(#*$ch but sweetie realize this next time, we don't see a good thing when we have it. Be happy for him and find someone new to make you happy. I promise 90% of your feelings now are simply you afraid to be alone. Embrace freedom and live it up untill someone comes along who makes you weak! Enjoy life like every day is your last!
2006-07-27 18:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by kristig79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missing his company is normal. Your everyday routine was broken and your trying to adjust. Get out there and live the single life. Don't compare the men you meet with your old boyfriend because it will fall apart. He is obviously moved on and it's normal to hurt....but what do you do when you fall...you get back up ;)
2006-07-27 18:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by Luna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean i broke up with my bf and then i felt soo lonely because i was scared that i wont find anyone as good as him. but we went back together cuz i couldnt take it anymore. if u guys broke up for good. than u need to find ur self a real hottie and go on with ur life.
good luck!
2006-07-27 18:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋