ok, i am staying at my sister's for the summer, she is a good mom, has three boys and takes good care of them, my mom however, regularly calls social services up and tells them horrible lies about my sister. I am not sure where she gets them from or why this is, this last time was at my sister's when they showed up, they found my mom's claims ridiculus and closed the case, then a few minutes later the rcmp (police) called my sister and asked for our mother's correct number telling my sister that my mom was the one who made the complaint, but she gave them a false phone number, so she gave the police our mom's phone number, and then shortly afterwards they called back to say that they (the police) told our mom that if she makes one more claim against my sister that she (my mom) will be charged. Which we are really happy that someone stepped up and put a stop to my mom's nonsense. However, now my daughter is turning 2 on saturday, should we invite my mom to the party after all this????
2006-07-27 10:57:14 · 13 answers · asked by IcePrincess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks so much everyone for your answers and some of you have hit on my hidden fear, that now after 3 years of tormenting my sister, that time has been forced to an end, will she send social services here against me?? especially since I am staying with my sister. My next problem is that my mom does have brain damage from car accident 10+ years ago...and i am not sure why but my youngest sis takes mom's side, even though it has been confirmed to be lies. so that makes it half of our family on opposite sides...and i was really close to my baby sis. I am really torn up about this. thanks so much again. there is a lot to think about.
2006-07-27 11:32:49 · update #1
umm i think ur mom needs mental help she probably has something wrong going on in her head, but anyways she is ur mother so i would say u should invite u. u never know she might get angry if u don't and start making up stuff about u! so invite her and if u think u can handle it try to ask her why she does these such foolish things...try to talk it out with her....after the party of course! well good luck!
2006-07-27 11:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by *~JeS~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom has some serious issues going on. I would not invite her to this party, but I would ask her to meet you someplace for lunch and have your daughter along. You may call today but set it up for next week after the party. If she questions it, just explain that you wanted this to be a special party for the 3 of you. Try to find a place that is busy and with quite a few people so she cannot make too big of an issue at lunch. If she's upset when you call because she's heard about the party be honest with her and and explain this is your daughters birthday and you want it to be a fun day. Remember to respect her the best that you can. She is having problems that you cannot fix
2006-07-27 11:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having 2 parties could prevent from any upset feelings on both sides and eliminate the opportunity for a scene to be made and ruining your daughters birthday. Counselor EJ
2016-03-27 02:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm this ones a tough one. On one hand she hasn't done anything against you and on the other hand you don't want her to make any false claims against you either. If she does make false claims against you the police will tell her the same thing they told her when she made false claims against your sister. However since you probably will be inviting your sister and her children, I would ultimately choose to not your mom myself.
2006-07-27 11:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I wouldn't as a way of showing support for my sister. Your mother sounds as if she is mentally ill, or is trying to get attention. It would be wise to limit the contact she has with any of her grandchildren including your daughter until you know what is going on with her. She needs help, and I hope she gets it. My mother is like this, and I've kept my children away from her all their lives, because of her bizarre behavior. She doesn't sound as if she realizes there are consequences for her actions, and if she is mentally ill she may act out and spoil your daughter's special day. Hope this helps.
2006-07-27 11:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It sounds like your mother is unstable and that can't be good to have around your children. Not to mention the fact that it sounds like she is trying to destroy your sister's life and since she will be charged if she does it again she may decide to move on to you. Keep her at a distance until she gets some help!
2006-07-27 11:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by martini_kiss81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would invite her but tell her her invitation is behavior dependent. You child shouldn't miss out on having all her family celebrate just because of differences between your sis and mom. besides you might tick her of then it could be you shes calling on lol
2006-07-27 11:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by rop mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though she is the grandparent, she is not a good example of one.
I would not invite her!! she lost the right and priveledge, when calling the police on their mother. you should no longer have any contact with mom. she lost that right also.
2006-07-27 11:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but your mother sounds like an insane troublemaker with far too much time on her hands. I wouldn't want that influence anywhere near my kids.
2006-07-27 11:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Mothers should not lie about their daughters!Dont let her get on you. She needs to learn her lesson
2006-07-27 11:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by Michael S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋