ok well theres this guy at my work and he's asked me out like 3 times and i've tried to tell him no nicely and he just doesnt seem to get the picture...its getting pretty annoying and he's telling all of my friends that we're going out...and everytime i leave work he gives me a hug and he calls me now...i dont know what to do without being mean...because if im mean i'll have to put up with him being mad at me every day at work...i just need some help!!!
2006-07-27 10:56:42 · 11 answers · asked by VolleyballChic4eva*** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't stop him from being mad about not getting what he wants. But you should be clear and direct about what you want without being mean.
So just say something like, "I'm sorry, you seem to be a nice enough person, but keeping company with you just does not appeal to me. Please stop asking me out."
2006-07-27 11:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel T 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Honey you just can't be nice to some people, they interpret it as encouragment. He appears to be one of them..so next time just say something like what exactly is it about NO that you can't comprehend? if that doesn't do it then kick it up another notch until you get to F*CK OFF LOSER, if that doesn't work then a restraining order is called for.
2006-07-27 11:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you make it a hard and fast rule not to date anyone from work. Add that because you want everyone at work to be your friend, you would hate to jeopardize your friendship with him by dating him. If that still does not work, knock him over the head. He sounds kind of dense anyway.
2006-07-27 11:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you let him hug you. Pretty soon he'll be kissing you goodbye. Then the 'friendly' grope when you pass in the hall.
DON'T LET HIM HUG YOU!. Freakin no brainer there. You're just playing with his head. If you turn him down and then make yourself available physically, what do you expect?
2006-07-27 11:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Phil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you can be friends only,but ur just dont want a relationship right now..or just do what i do tell him u have a boyfriend works for me lol
2006-07-27 11:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't get hints. You have to flat out tell him that youre not interested in dating him.
2006-07-27 11:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by magdalen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, that's sexual harrassment, tell him if he doesn't stop right now, you will report him to management.
Don't put up with it, its against the law. He should know better.
2006-07-27 11:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by johnb693 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay well, next time he asks you out or something, be straightforward. dont let him hear anything else but: NO. he shouldnt get confused...and if he does...welll just listen to whatever everyone else is saying. theyre right.
2006-07-27 11:07:17 · answer #8 · answered by sugar4sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell him straight and clear
" Sorry I dont want to go out with you - you are a nice guy but not my type and please dont hug me it makes me uncomfortable"
no other way of dealing with it -
2006-07-27 11:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to the supervisor or the manager and tell what u just wrote here - this is called sexual harassement
2006-07-27 11:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Bleskem B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋