every other weekend i go see my dad. he and my mom never got married and when i was born they broke up and 3 years later my mom married my step dad who she has 3 kids with. and 4 years after that my dad married his wife. my mom and step dad have good money and my dad is kinda broke right now.
any chance he gets he talks bad about my mom and calls her crazy. my mom is asian and he tries to do impressions of her and says she has a flat a-s and immature stuff like that. how do i respond while being respectful?
2006-07-27 10:41:48 · 22 answers · asked by mahayla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like he is being disrespectful himself so i wouldn't worry to much about trying to respect him with your response. Tell him its not fair and you don't like hearing him bad mouth your mother, if he continues it you will have to consider spending less time with him until he sorts himself out.
2006-07-27 10:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for any child caught in between their parents. I think you need to be honest with him so that he has an opportunity to change his behaviour! If he continues you can always not visit him so that he sees that you are very serious about how his behaviour effects you and maybe that will be enough for him to realize the importance of a healthy relationship with his child!
I truly wish you success with this as I know it must hurt, make you feel angry and probably at times powerless, so talk with him, at least you will have stepped up to solving a problem that shouldn't have been created in the first place!
2006-07-27 10:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Angie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pull your dad aside for a private sit down. You need to tell him that the things he says about your mom really hurts. Do not under any circumstance let one parent turn you against another. My mom did that with me towards my dad and when I got old enough to form my own opinion with my own eyes it was my mom that had the issues. I missed out on having my dad and his new family because of my mothers negativity.
2006-07-27 10:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family sounds a lot like mine. Difference is, my parents did get married and my dad's side of the family wore black to the wedding. They used to talk about how bad my mother was to us and everything while we were little, but I am older now so I can tell them off.
2006-07-27 10:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ebony M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father in a respectful way, while we are all entitled to our own opinions,when he voices his in front of you it makes you very sad and upset and you would appreciate it if he wouldn't talk about your mother in a negative way. Remind him that when he speaks negatively about the nationality of your mother, your of that same nationality so he's essentially making fun of you! Good luck and I'm really sorry, parents can be idiots sometimes,we don't think before we speak sometimes too!
2006-07-27 10:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. You wouldn't be here asking our advice if it didn't hurt you. So this seems a great place to start. Tell him gently the next time he does this that you love your mom and that you would rather he not talk like that about her in front of you. Explain to him that you love him and you wouldn't like your mother talking badly about him and that you would tell her the same thing.
I hope this helps you and good luck!
2006-07-27 10:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't want to come around if he is going to talk bad about your mom. Your dad should be more mature than he is being. Bless your heart for having to deal with this.
2006-07-27 10:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that although she has a flat a--s she was there 4 you and he wasnt and that your step dad has cared 4 you like your his own flesh and blood
p.s dont let them get you down cause your in a better position than them ok and give your mom alot of love and care
2006-07-27 10:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by libra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is misguided, it basically hurts you while she talks like that, so ask her to stop or shop it to herself. She it attempting to take out frustration of feeling like trash because of the fact of being caught with the stigma of being divorced. If she doesnt stop no person will prefer to be together with her. Its going to harm the two one in all you interior the long term.
2016-11-03 03:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your dad know it bothers you and not to mention that her blood is in you. i would feel that while he's making fun of your mom he's making fun of you too. but you yourself know who your real mom is-beautiful,loving,caring, and there to be with you.
my mom says stuff like that about my dad but i dont care about what my mom says. im glad i had the chance to meet my dad since my sister and i were toddlers. they divorced since my sister was 1 and that was about 27years ago. i love my dad alot i know he made mistakes when they were young but i dont feel that my mom has the right to corrupt our minds. just tell your dad if he doesnt take it seriously then dont talk to him for awhile until he's ready to hear what you have to say.
2006-07-27 11:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by ???? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋