How long do you wait to tell your girlfriend that you have mental issues? Do you wait till after you have been together a while and she loves you to break the news? Do you wait until she asks you? Do you tell her at all? thinking about this, I need an answer that will not make her leave me and want to help me. How should I break the news to her? Is it ok if I just hint to her that I have them but not go into detail about them unless she asks me? Should I wait at least until after we do it the first time? Should I have told her right away? Should I avoid the question all together and just keep on changing the topic? I don't know what I should do.. I know I should tell her.. But I want to wait until after we make love a bunch of times and I know she loves me, before I tell her I have mental issues. If II even tell her at all..I know if I would have told her sooner she would be like the last one week girl frined I had. she could not handle me having a nervous break down..
2006-07-27 10:21:32 · 8 answers · asked by confused1979 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I dated a guy who was bi-polar. When I didn't know about it, I thought that it was always because of me when he was in "down mode." Once I found out, it was easier to deal with. The situation turned to "us" and not "me" or my fault. I would tell her what the condition is, how things are for you when you are having the problem, what she can do to help you. Keep it on a positive level as much as possible and be honest. If she loves you, she will be supportive and want to know how to handle the issues when they come up. I think overall, it will strengthen your relationship with her.
2006-07-27 10:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by autumntrist39 2 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Is it causing your relationship a problem. Is there any reason to tell her. What is the nature of your illness .Will it come out so she knows you have it. Will she find your medication. How open minded is she. Some illness like depression and its various forms are extremely common.These are things you must address first yourself. I too suffer from a mental illness but medication controls it and I've actual have a better personalty I've been told. Mental illness need not be a handicap.Wait tell she ask you. If she ever does! I'm sure she's not telling you how many times a day she goes to the restroom. If she can't hand it -if you have to tell her. She was never worth your time in the fist place! Please exam some of the questions I've place before you to better decide the right thing to do. I hope I've been of assistance. Thank you
2006-07-27 18:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by Delano L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have mental issues, you shouldn't even be in a relationship when you didn't say it upfront in the beginning.
Also, internet relationships DO NOT WORK. Trust me, been there, done that. Unless you meet each other face to face on a regular basis then it has a shelf life of about six months to a year before both of you get tired.
2006-07-27 18:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of a relationship is being true and honest. You should of told her, but now is not too late. If she really cares for you it won't matter if you have a mental condition or not. She'll just see you as you really are: you.
2006-07-27 17:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Gerozephyrus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with her from the start.
If you really care for her (not only for yourself) you will tell her the truth, and let her make her own decision.
If she really cares for you, she will be able to handle it. Maybe she will appreciate your courage, honesty, and concern for her.
A relationship built on deception will not prosper.
The very best of luck to you!
2006-07-27 17:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by zen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what mental issues do you have? Manic depression? Obssessive compulsive? We need to know first before we can give advise.
2006-07-27 17:31:20 · answer #6 · answered by Goofy-footer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her as soon as possible... if she doesnt want to deal with it she can leave... its as simple as that...
2006-07-27 17:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Keith T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always be honest.
2006-07-27 17:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by lifes_heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋