I found out last night my boyfriend has lost/spent most of the money he saved to buy me an engagement ring. I am not sure how or where the money went, except he maybe blew it eating out.
Two years ago, I told him I wanted a ring and gave him a date to accomplish this by. He was working full time at the time and I paid most of the bills. However, he kept quitting his jobs and waiting until he were broke to get a new one. Needless to say, I never got the ring. I told him to forget it. He since got, and managed to hold down, this job for over a year while going to school too.
I am worried about his level of responsibility. Should I be or am I overreacting?
2006-07-27 10:14:03 · 5 answers · asked by Kats 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've already informed him there will be no kids unless he a) finished college and b) gets married (to me, ha ha.) He wants to have kids. I am so-so.
I also have a type of severe depression that is untreated.
2006-07-27 10:32:16 · update #1
If I were you, I'd seriously sit back and reconsider if I really wanted to marry him...does he seem like marriage material to you? If you still want to be with him then maybe you should try backing off a little bit...Let him get you a ring on his own time. It'll mean alot more that way because you'll know that he did it because he wanted you to have it, and not just so that you'd stop asking for it. ya know?
2006-07-27 10:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want a husband who will be responsible, and be able to provide for his family, I think you are reacting in a normal manner.
If you want a guy who will not be responsible, and make poor decisions that affect you and your future kids...then you are on the right track in putting up with him.
This is just a sign of his personality, motivation, and priorities. Be smart.
2006-07-27 17:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems to me that he is just a moocher and that he is lazy and it looks like to me that u have a lot going for urself so u need rethink things over with him and i dont think he takes the responsibilty on managing his finances seriously if u love him stick with and try to help him but dont let him bring u down in the process ya know !!!!!
2006-07-27 17:22:21 · answer #3 · answered by pinkparisbutterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha, you said "eating out"
no, i would worry about him. he sounds like a loser. if it was important to him you would have the ring. especially since you gave him a deadline
2006-07-27 17:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably so. talk to him and express your concerns. you don't want this to happen when you need diapers and formula for the baby y'know. good luck.
2006-07-27 17:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by D baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋